COMMENT ON LASHERSLAUGH

[lostmarbles]

I read the post and I read the comments and of course they were mixed. No one knows what one is really going through and for all we know it may just be a reference to what she may have been feeling at the time. Who's to say that she is using and who is to say she isn't. Just because she worded it in that particular way does not mean the worst. Not everyone can word things exactly just so.. I have read a post this week of someone who was still using and they listed every single crazy feeling we addicts feel when using as well as the accompanying thoughts. Everybody wished that person luck (IN A NICE WAY) I have since sent a private PM to LASHERSLAUGH asking if she is ok and that if she wants to talk she can. I hope she responds. I'm sorry but I just feel that sometimes people are very quick to judge and comment and sometimes it's harsh. Yes we are all here for support (to receive as well as to give) listen, understand and advise others as others do with us but sometimes there are those that really are struggling and sometimes those people really can't word it the way they want to.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Shhh, Marbles thinks we don't know where the land of other is.

[Flutterby111]

It's morning?  really?  guess what?  My dad's marrying a woman from England....is that where your from?  right?  that is where the jig originated correct?  cherio!!!!

[lostmarbles]

yes we do all react in different ways... anyhooooooooooo.... its morning where I am...happy 21 days...!!

[Flutterby111]

I think I called her a jerk...oops...BUT, that's how I felt...it brought me back to that feeling I could identify oh too well with...and sh** i didn't like it....maybe I'm the jerk.  oh well......sh** happens....we all react ....

[addictedme]

I remember the butterflies,,the drive,,and the feeling I had when they put that 30 day clean tag in my hand

[lostmarbles]

DITTO !!!!

[VicUser]

well said

[confused456]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

[toxictome]

hey...i don't think anyone meant to be harsh.. ..just honest......our personalities range from one end of the spectrum to the other, and everywhere in between..........there are going to be differences...it was just a post and people wrote what they thought...end of story...i've had people post less than nice responses to me on here....and i didn't go out and use....let's get back to the job at hand..the journey....thinking about getting clean, in the process of getting clean, or staying clean.....HAPPY TRAILS!!!!

[VicUser]

can't wait to see it. Maybe it'll start a fad

[VicUser]

Look at it another way, I used to smoke, 24 years ago, I loved smoking, the feel of the new pack full of cigarettes, the smell of the tobacco when you first open the pack, the first drag off of a new cig. Would I want to do it now, no but, what a memory I still have a soft spot for all of it. However, there are many more thing I dislike about smoking now, like the after smell and the chance of dying a horrible death and missing out on getting old with my wife and seeing my future grand kids. Same with drugs and getting them from the pharmacy.

[Sophie20]

I agree it could have been written with a bit more concern for others, but maybe she just didn't explain herself very well. Maybe she meant that she really hated it because that was happening, and not that it was a good thing to have butterflies?
But to her:
Would you go to the drinking board and talk about the fun night you had while sitting at the bar getting drunk and remind everyone of the good ole days?  I would think someone wouldn't do that, but that's just my opinion.

[lostmarbles]

ive got the camera rolling now...

[VicUser]

You know if you would make a video of the flush and jig and put it on U-tube it might be and incentive for other to get rid of those old pills as well as a how-to, so we could do it right......LOL

[lostmarbles]

sorry I meant her journal and although it does not say much, it does come across as being sad and lost... again, we are all here for the same reason

[lostmarbles]

true... i don't think for a second she wanted to subject people to the hell of those feelings but it just goes to show that people react to the reminder... well, I believe that we are our own worst critics and if someone can use what she said as an excuse to get angry or p!$$#d off with it then surely that's down to the individual and they should then be a stronger person and at least say 'well, thank God, I don't feel that way anymore...

as for this forum I think it's great and there are many people here who are fab too.. but I for one am very openminded and do not like to judge others or call them names..in fact I object to the latter hugely... before I posted I read her post and it comes across as sad and lost and she is here for a reason just like the rest of us....

[confused456]

LMAO.....wow, words I have spoken many a time......

[toxictome]

haha .........i always tell my kids....

Say what you mean and mean what you say""


and I used to tell my ex..."If you don't want my opinion, then don't ask me, cause I'll give you MY opinion and not what you wan tto hear"...LOL

Hard-***?!?!...or would that be smart-***????

[avisg]

I think the reason the post struck so many cords is we can all if we are honest with ourselves remember that feeling ......I know I can !!!!!!I I also remember counting pills praying i would not run out early , making sure I had some in my purse at all times lord for bid I forgot to put them in my prruse . Then there was the shame for letting me get in the mess to start out with.I dont think she meant it in any bad way ....

[toxictome]

Again....
it all comes down to opinions...and they are neither right nor wrong...they just are!!!!

I prol' overreacted..but that is what i thought at the time...

I tend to say what's on my mind....and not beat around the bush..not always the best policy...however...that's me....

Just like at a mtg...i take what i need and leave the rest....

.....we are on this journey together....and it's from all the different opinions...that we form our perspectives...hugs to all!!!!!!!!!!  <3<3<3

[lostmarbles]

I just felt a bit sad that's all... maybe I'm being super sensitive at the moment - I don't know... bu thank you for the support xx

[confused456]

Thank you marbles! I agree and I am going to go back and hope that my comment was not negative. I did not mean for it to be and everyone is here for the same reason!! Very well said!