Need help for my son

[indianamom87]

my son is 18 yrs old and just admitted he needs help 2 days ago we got him into a drug facility.. i call a few times to day and check on him and he is starting to say he wants to come home. I know he went in on his own what can i do or say to him to keep him there. Nurse told me last night he is hurting all over and that is part of it. I know my son was on meth and etc..I know each person body is different so I  know it can be few days or more to get past this stage. what can i do to help him understand that this is important.. I just called to talk to his nurse and he tells me my son wants to come home. since he signed himself in he can sign himself out. I dont want him to come home right now i want him to stick it out and get HELP... any advice would be great ..

[kim715]

I can only imagine what a tough situation it must be for a parent to have to go through this..I can also only imagine how hard it would be to tell your son he can't come home until he sees this threw,but I tend to agree with gizzy,tough love is what he needs right now.He's wanting out right now because of the w/ds and his addictive brain is scheming wanting to get out so he can use again and take the physical pain away.He's dealing with not just the physical pain right now but the mental battle. He knows he can't score any drugs where he is and I can almost guarantee you that his addiction is trying to talk him into getting out and just using a little,just enough to make the pain go away.It won't end up being just a little though.One is too many and one thousand is never enough.I know this because I have been there,all of us here have.Take away his options,say or do whatever you have to ,to make him stay there.He's safe where he is,he can't get anything and every day that passes he will feel better.Just like he has to take it hour by hour,minute by minute,so do you.You say or do whatever it takes to keep him there one more hour.Keep posting.I will keep you both in my prayers..All the best...Kim

[gizzy32]

I hope he stays too. He may be allowed to sign himself out, but what if you told him he can't come back home till he finishes getting the help he needs. I know that sounds mean, but sometimes tough love is the best. I don't know your situation, that is only a thought. Addiction is a family disease and you might benefit from alanon or narcanon if any are in your area?

I am sorry your going through this, i caused my parents a lot of grief a few years back and it was not fair of me. I hope things work out and he gets better. Here is a link to alanon if your interested. Good luck.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

[troubleinohio]

i hope he decides to stay...how long was he on methadone? other opiates too? anything else? With the short acting opiates (vicodin, percocet, oxy etc) WD is usually the worst around Day 3 or so, but with Methadone it can last quite a bit longer. Im not sure on the exact time frame for that as I never used methDone, only the vicodin. But i know from other members here that methadone detox takes longer. I think a lot of it depends on how long hes been on it and how high a dose. If he is only 18 yrs old though Im sure it couldnt have been too terribly long compared to some  here so he may get off luckier than them. I hope he realizes he needs to stay there. If he comes home he will surely run out and get pills as fast as he can and be right back where he started. (and is at risk of overdosing since his tolerance has probably dropped already from not having any in a few days) Its good that he admitted he has a problem and did volunenterailly go in to rehab for it. THat shows a good willingness to quit, but he has to follow through and tough it out. It suckks for sure, you hurt so bad all over, get diarrhea, cant sleep, get horrible restless leg syndrome (which for some people they get in other areas of their body too- it doesnt have to be just in the legs). I just hoep he understands that this will pass and he has to get through it. I wish i could offer you better advice but at this point there isnt really anything anyone can do but your son. He has to decide to stick with it and i hope he does. I can only offer you my support and prayers. Keep us posted, and keep reading here, you will get lots of information, advice and support.