TRIGGER HAPPY

[msdelight]

So my friend just called to say there was small matter of a $60 tab and things were still "good". REALLY??!!  I was vague and brushed him off, but Lord have mercy!  Is this some kind of sick test?? Now what??

[msdelight]

You are all right. Thanks for the rescue. Didn't call him back and still clean. Thanks to all of you for taking the time to talk me off the cliff. I'll worry about paying that pre-clean debt when I'm stronger, probably through mailbox. Thank you that. I'm not alone <3

[marycarmel]

I sort of agree that if you borrowed $60, pay it back as soon as you can and be done with it.  But if it's just that he took it upon himself to get something for you, then too bad; he's out of luck.  I'm sure he can recoup his $60 some other way.  Stick to the things you know are right and surround yourself with people that want the best for you.

[VICourageous]

Triggers, Triggers and more darn Triggers. There all over and can jump your ash any time..From cleaning your house to going to the store. This is when it becomes VERY serious to be in-tune with them and set up all the Boundaries you can. Just be safe and Keep the Armour on against this Disease at all times..Most likely the rest of your Life!!!
Bless

[ROSYouralright]

IBK is absolutely right!

[IBKleen]

Stay away from people, places and things no matter how you have to do it. You are setting yourself for a fall but being anywhere near this "friend". I hope you get far way.

[clean_in_ks]

So this isn't an old debt you owe prior to getting clean?  That's what I thought you meant....that you owed him $60.  If he took it upon himself to score for you and fronted $...that's HIS problem.
Not responding or answering ANY calls or texts....even changing your # if you have to will eliminate this.

[msdelight]

I deleted his number on day 8, after I sent him a text saying "you are nothing to me, don't ever call me, enjoy your p-whipped life" Judging from his response, I thought that was it. Then he called on day 20 w/voicemail saying he has stuff for me. I texted him and said no. Now day 24 he's looking for cash. Maybe he put out the $$ for me & is trying to recoup the funds?

[Pat1956100]

Arrange for someone else to give him the money and lose his number for sure.  In a weak moment you will be dialing it.  (do we still say dial?)
I had my "friend's" number memorized and dialed it during a few weak moments.  It always took him awhile to get over here and once the moment had passed, it was too late to back out or so I told myself.
I finally have forgotten it.

[Heather8448]

I agree with Clean in KS

[ROSYouralright]

Yea, I have to agree. Maintaining contact with him is bad business! Cut all sources.

[dominosarah]

I would still lose his number.........

[clean_in_ks]

You said you were vague and brushed him off.  When we get clean, we must begin to clean up the wreckage of our past....when you have the $60, you can pay him what you own him, advise him not to call you anymore now that you have "settled up"....and delete his number/ignore contact.
You will feel much better when you do.....and eliminate a future potential trigger for yourself.

[msdelight]

Yes I owe him $60

[ROSYouralright]

You owe him $60?

[clean_in_ks]

Do you owe $60 to this person?  Or am I not understanding?

[dominosarah]

Some friend huh!  I would get rid of his number or change your phone number.