i need help

[shellneedhelp]

I have been dating this guy for over a yr. and I had found out that he has an addiction to xzanax and  oxycottin. im not really sure what to do to help him but its really scary. there is times when we are together and he is nodding out. its embarrassing, people come up to me and ask questions. he has got stopped by the cops more then 10 times. he has been in the hospital 3 times and crashed his car. i am really scared i dont no what to do if anyone has any info for me please HELP ME!!!!

[extrmeski]

Read my post, but I had the same problem with my ex g/f.  It was horrible when she was abusing the xanex, she would nod out smoking ciggs and burn everything, she wrecked 3 cars, I had to pick her up at the cops station more than a few times.  It was the same story over and over again.  I had to get out.  Not just all that but the expense of it all, the lifestyle I man all we would talk about are drugs how to get them how many she had left etc...  We went to some of the worst places I have ever seen just to get drugs.  Not a good lifestyle at all.  I'm sorry but honestly you need to get out!  I tried for 2 1/2 years with her and in the end the drugs were more important than I was.

[joann1975]

Well, the 1st question is this....does he want to get clean? If he does not (i am assuming you don't have kids) I would say you need to leave. Think really hard about this.... if he doesn't want to get clean...you continue in this relationship...you somehow get pregnant....you couldn't even leave your child w/their own father... do you want to be married to someone that could possibly have a car accident and wipe out an entire family and (this sounds superficial but I'm going to say it) you are responsible for the bill b/c the car is in your name....and the guilt of that family that could be injured. Also, his addiction is only going to get worse and more expensive.

I am by no means trying to say harsh or mean words to you.... I am guessing you are thinking with your heart at this point and a year is a while to be together... but I think it's time to reconsider where you want to be.

Now if he DOES want to get clean that is awesome....there is alot of information on this forum to help him....you could show this to him. There are health pages on here on the right side of the screen to help detox and maybe you guys could find him a rehab center.
There are alot of options if he does want to clean up! However, the xanax can't be stopped cold turkey... that can be dangerous.

Good luck....JoAnn

[jimi1822]

He needs to detox in a hospital setting. WD from xanax cold turkey might result in him having a seizure until he's ready to get help I would avoid @ all costs the situation.

                                                               may GOD be with you jimi

[misterkangfish]

Hello and welcome. Being an addict myself I can tell you in no uncertain terms that if he doesn't want to stop there is absolutely nothing you can do for him. If he wants to stop that's a different story. He may try and fail but he'll keep trying if he wants it. In that case he will need your support if you decide to stay with him but you must protect yourself and not waste your future. Sad but true. Good luck with whatever you do and good luck to him. - John

[jimi1822]

Hi, I'm Jimi's wife.  I've been where you are and it's not a fun place to be.  Although Jimi has been clean from drugs for 9 years, he was drinking pretty heavily when we dated and were first married.  He's now totally sober about a year.  When things were really bad, I found that Alanon helped me a lot.  If I couldn't go to a meeting, I went online.  It's important to know you are not alone.  There are many others walking in your shoes.  One thing I learned is that you are not responsible for his addiction and you have to do what you have to do to take care of yourself.  You can't make him stop if he doesn't want to.  It has to come from him. Good luck to you.  Keep us posted.

Lori (Jimi's wife)

[dominosarah]

Read and reread the last post from Jimi's wife.  And to Lori, thank you for posting that.  sara