Validation...???....

[n8tiv_ndn]

Why do we as addicts need to seek "external" validation from those around us as we struggle to win this life-long battle??? Just curious....seems that winning and knowing within ourselves should be enough....but it never is...we seem to need those close to us to really understand our great struggle and it isn't fair to expect that from people who have not made this journey themselves....oh well any input welcome as usual....I continue down my recovery path....again...or still.......peace to all.....

pilamaye kolas,
n8tiv_ndn
Mark

[NorthEast213]

Well said Ricart...  Even though its starting to fade.. The memory is still fresh for me.   Awesome post.

[ricart70]

That is why I like to let the newer people try to help the newest people because even at 6 months out I really am not in the same place and have really forgotten the withdrawal experience .Yes I can describe it in words but as far as the actual feeling,it has become vague just as most unexperienced feelings do over time.I know also that I can no longer rely on that memory to keep me from going back.If anything that is the last thing I can rely on.  When we do quit these and stay quit we are doing something that is quite remarkable but to outside observers we are just doing what we are supposed to do.To us we are hitting the grand slam home run but to the never addicted observer we are simply the outfielder catching the fly ball that we should be catching in the first place.

[NorthEast213]

Mark..

IMO... Our addictions regardless of what they may be can be a very lonely place..  Sometimes they made us way more social but when then decision was made to stop, it becomes a lonely battle..(which is why this place is awesome)    No matter what... when you are at your worst point, it feels like nobody as ever suffered so much before...  That is when IMO we crave validation the most.  Or at least for me...  The further out I get the more I see it is nearly impossible for anyone to understand these trials if they have never experienced them firsthand.  Hang in there my friend.. Improvement is on the way.

[scaredmommy2005]

I dont think it is just addicts. It is human nature to want to know people approve of us, love us and think we are doing a great job.