Where is Dr. Steve?

[skipper]

i have a simple question, where has Dr. Steve been? it seems as if he hasn't answered any questions for a awfully long time. i know a lot of people take issue with his mostly out of the can answers, have his feelings been hurt? perhaps his (Dr. Steve) practice is far too demanding to be bothered by a bunch of dopers? at any rate i sure hope he (Dr. Steve) is doing ok. perhaps things will slow down enough that Dr. Steve will be able
to honor his commitment to this forum!
keep an angel on your shoulder
kip

[tex3]

Hi all. Groovy, I'm actually doing very well. My first detox was inpatient and I felt so guilty being away from my kids, on top of not being ready to actually succeed, that it failed. The second one (which was almost 6 weeks ago) was actually my choice. I did it at home, under the supervision of my doctor, and it's been fine. I was highly motivated, though, and I think that made all the difference. Yes, I get upset with my kids at times, but I don't think it's any more often than most moms. And I am certainly more "there" for them than I ever was before! So all in all, I think things are really well.

Meagain, I posted all that in hopes that you are at that point to, or can see the light at the end of the tunnel? You obviously want to get better, but have all that guilt and fear we all go through. I really think I am a much better mom now than I ever was before. For me, it just took really being ready. If you have to go inpatient, that might be the best route. Call detox centers and ask them if they can refer you to a service for your kids. I'm sure many parents have gone through this dilemna and many more will do so.

Life -- thanks for the post. I'm pretty good. When I do get upset with my three girls, I apologize to them, take a deep breath and remind them that we are going to have a good day, it is just our choice to do so! I think admitting when we are wrong to our children is very important. Mine are all very close in age and the fighting between them gets pretty bad at times, but that's just normal. I actually have much more patience with them then my sister does with hers, and she's not dealing with recovery...

I hope everyone is having a good day. Seems quiet around here so far. tracy

[lifeisbetter]

Tex3... I'm a mom to 3 young children and have just over 5 months off the Oxys after a brief relapse...I would have had a year. All I can tell you is it does get better. Kids get on your nerves plain and simple so accept the fact that you'll over-react at times. If I'm using, detoxing or clean I have mood swings too, only when I was on the pills I would yell at the kids and then run to the bathroom to do another Oxy and come out all happy again, with no explanation to them. Now,I still yell occasionally, well honestly more than occasionally, but instead I go to the bathroom, pray/count or just breathe, and then come out and APOLOGIZE to them. It does wonders for my kids when I admit that mommy messes up too.

Meagain... I went to treatment and NO the State did not get involved. Remember, a voluntary admission to rehab is completely confidential. I was already involved with HRS due to domestic violence so I was really scared they would find out...they never did. I know I've told you this before but, if you don't get yourself together soon, chances are you'll lose her to the state anyway, or be court ordered to treatment and not have a say in her placement. You have the choice right now. IF YOU CONTINUE TO WAIT FOR REHAB YOU ARE CHOOSING YOUR PILLS OVER YOUR CHILD. I know this because I was right where you are. I had nobody either, but when I was ready, a Christian family basically appeared in my life and took the kids for me, and are now my closest friends. There are treatment centers here in Florida that allow you to live there with your child. The Village in Miami is one. Call information for a battered womans shelter in your area and they will refer you to a treatment center. It saved my life.

I went to a meeting today and the woman chairing had her two children sitting with her, ages 3 and 8. She got one year today,
but even better her kids have their mommy. Please CHOOSE your child, she needs you to kiss boo-boo's, read stories, make sandwhiches with no crust, things that only mommys do best. hugs to you.

[groovygirl]

i rather doubt if you haven't had trouble in the past with the law, child abuse/neglect etc., dss will get involved, but i don't know for sure.  i remember you saying a long time ago that you were afraid of your child being taken from you.  i would think if you seek treatment on your own, rather than being court ordered or something, that they would look favorably on it.  plus, you do have a husband to help...although from the sound of it you may not feel comfortable about counting on him? do you have any friends or family that could help you out.  if you can think of just one person, that might be all it would take right?

you can at least call to see what your options are.  there are many services out there, and inpatient seems a lot easier to find.  i'm no dr. and please don't take any offense to this, but you kind of sound like you might have more issues than just drug dependancy.  a lot of the time, i do not understand your posts...they are garbled.  then other times, you sound happy and pretty together.  you would do more for your child by seeking help than you would trying to go it alone i think...that is what ultimately got me on a plane to fl..thinking about my family.  every time i come here or go to a meeting or study more about addiction, i am thinking about the people in my life i want to be around for...it is the best incentive for me and one i cannot ignore.  just make a couple phone calls...no one will know who you are unless you choose to tell them.

[oh please already]

how are you feeling? you have been on my mind all day- i know that with opiate withdrawl your not suppose to have any problems but i will tell you what happened to you seemed to be what happened to my husband a while back- he got all confused and has no memory of a period of time,even the trip in the ambulance.(i thought he was having a stroke) like you his doctor felt it was blood pressure related so follow up please.Your not taking any sleeping pills are you because i know that ambien can have a amnesia affect and make you trip even with one.,they say there safe but i am firmly conviced that no one just remembers.you should of seen all the people tripping when i was working in the hopital as a nurse.I was wondering,if you go to a detox or rehab,does social service become involved if you have kids and watch?  if anyone knows that would be great /  thanks  laura

[Francoise]

Dr. Steve NEVER answered a question. He just moved his lips.

His "reply" was always the same: you need to see your local physician. Don't try this with your truck. Void in Mississippi. Close cover before striking.

Francois

[groovygirl]

i am doing fine - i talked with my dr. yesterday after it happened.  i have very low blood pressure, so it could have been something to do with that.  he is going to give me a "complete work-up" whatever that means. he definitely didn't seem overly concerned about it which put me at ease.  i also called my friend who's a dr., and he wasn't freaked out either.  i was tho, and so was my husband...i guess dr's hear a lot freakier stuff on a daily basis, so they aren't shocked by much. i often will walk into a room and forget why, or stand looking into the refrigerator for minutes...but this was different - this was a total blackout.  hopefully i'll know more on thurs, but they very well may not find anything.  i just had a complete check-up a couple months ago.  thanks for all your concern:)