Herion is he being honest

[cry711]

My son floored me 2 weeks ago he said he was addicted to herion and going into rehab. I never saw it.

I thought maybe he was drinking too much. I told him when I met him at the rehab of his choice I was proud of him.
I've cried a millon tears, I feel betrayed here I was sending him money to help him out I thought he was going through a hard time. I snuck and called me in the middle of the night after 4 days he wanted me to pick him up. He said he was done with the drugs and felt he was letting his family down. I felt he called me because I'm soft hearted. I asked him to give it 1 more week. I was so disappointed I called and left a message and no one called me he called the next day and said either I come get him or he was walking off. He did and they picked him up and my other son said his Dad picked him up. I don't know what to do I cry all night I can't sleep. I love my boys with all my heart and the worry is killing me. He said he's done with it but I don't know he's in his 20's and lives in a different town. Please help me save my baby

[jstntime]

Wow, that's rough,

Please let the "betrayal" for him go.  It may be an initial reaction to your stunning "news" but truly, the only mistake he made, was doing it the 1st time.  Trust me on this one, he IS going through a "hard time".

The illness and cravings are very bad the first few days after using last so as Brian says, he needs to want this bad enough to get through it.  He 's carrying lots of shame and guilt for what he's done to his family (especially if he''s using again) but he needs to stop for him.

He's an adult, be there for him, talk to him often, tell him you love him.  I have kids too, I can't imagine the heartbreak this surely must be causing you.

He knows he has a problem.  We're all praying he finds the strength and resolve to succeed with this.

Wishing I had the Magic answer for you,

bob

[bmdad]

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Like said above, if a addict has to really want it for himself and those around him can only try and support him. For many we have to hit our "rock bottom" before we truly get the help we need. Although, this isn't the case for everyone. It was a very good sign that he came to you and was honest about his drug use as many are to ashamed to admit it. That was my case. I was prescribed pain meds for chronic back and sciatic pain but was too ashamed to admit I had a problem to my wife or parents. They knew I had been taking them for pain but didn't realize I had become addicted. I was able to finally go cold turkey in the past. I am currently tapering again as I started taking them again due to pain and ended up taking way more than prescribed. I am tapering so my wife won't notice the withdrawals. But like I said, at least he came to you for help. If he said he is done and you believe he is still using you have to be very careful about how you go about talking to him. We can become very defensive if we are using and are denying it. You don't want to push him away. Maybe if you have your doubts and just try to talk to him and he says he's not using ask him to take a drug test just to put your mind at ease. Maybe somehow make it sound like you are the weak one here for not trusting him and make it sound like it's more of your problem. If this makes any sense! If he will not take one it is probably a good sign he's still using. I know if I was accuses of using and was clean I would jump on the chance to prove everyone wrong! I'm sure someone will come along with a better answer. Sometimes it's a bit slow in the evenings and on weekends. Aftercare is very important so na meetings would be great for him. There are also meetings for family and friends of addicts which would also be great for you as I can't imagine how tough it is for you to deal with. If he refuses meetings, maybe you can get him to come on here? He will receive so much great support. We are some of the most understanding and helpful people you can meet! I personally don't go to na meetings but this forum is my aftercare. You have to remember that addiction is a disease and must be treated as such. Just try to be as caring as possible. Hang in there and hopefully he will prove you wrong by thinking he is using! I pray that he gets the help and desire to stay clean. You will be in my prayers also as it must be so tough. I have a 9 year old and 6 year old and know the love of a child is like no other. Best of luck to you, your son, and your family.
Brian

[mr.lucky66]

Methadone and sub are treatment are ment for peole who have had multiple treatment failures and shouldn't be offered to an addict who hasn't had treatment before. These are  "harm reduction' or "replacement therapies" and should be reserved for people who really have tried and failed because they are also very addictive drugs.It's much better if he tries detox first and maybe a rehap would be good. all the best

[Holliee]

wow thats a hard one he has to truly want help before you can help him. You could also try an offer him other treatment like a methadone or subutex suboxone clinic's. If you would like to know more send me a message. Put arrow to my name and hit send message and be glad to chat and try help you out. I am so sorry for what your going through, God Bless and stay strong when you can't walk The LOrd will carry you.
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