I too am going thru this with my husband. He wasnt on oxycontin so we are lucky in that he hasnt gone past vicodin. He tells me he is trying to quit them now but I still worry if he is being honest with me or even himself. What Sway said is very true, believe half of what you see & none of what he says. Dont push it in his face that you cant trust him but it is what it is. The only thing that I even 1/2 way believe about my husband right now is that he really does want to quit them. The problem with that is just from reading this forum I have realized that a person can truly hate the drug and wish more than anything in the world that they could (would) quit but actually doing it was another matter. Some finally hit that point where they wanted to quit more than they wanted to keep doing it and some here are still fighting with it. One thing you have to keep in mind tho is that he didnt choose this over you and your child. He just chose to do it and now it does its best to control him and make him choose the drug over everything else. With that said, always keep in mind that yours and your child's well being is more important than anything and if you feel that you have given it your best to help him get clean and he just keeps going back then you may have to make the decision to stay or go. There are a lot of people here who are beating this addiction to opiates everyday, some of them with years of being clean so have faith that it CAN be done but the scary truth is that it is a 50-50 shot.
it's alot like believe half of what you see and none of what you hear from a newly clean addict. yes, we will always be addicts right up til the end. sad but true. the more people he can be honest with about his problems, the better. if an addict messes up, many times they will try to hide it. we need someone who won't pass judgement, because if ti aint honest, than it aint real. it only works if it's real and true. keep posting on here. there are many wiser than i, and always willing to help. good luck. peace. sway