First off, I am posting more for support as I am learning about addiction. I've been in a 3 year relationship with an addict, he has been addicted to opiates and has struggled on and off for years.
When I first met him it was unlike any relationship I've ever had, he was nurturing, sweet, considerate, and genuinely caring for my son and I. He stopped taking pills immediately when he told me about his past, and I watched him detox. For a solid 8 months we had a pretty wonderful relationship. Then, due to unforeseen circumstances he moved away for a few months to take a better job and we did the long distance romance. He returned a few months later as someone I no longer recognized. He became agitated easily, he became the type to want to go for "rides", he ignored my calls/texts, and wanted to spend more time away from me with his friends than with us. I stayed in it because I loved him and wanted to fight for the solid foundation we built.
Now, we are almost 3 years in, he's been using on and off for a while now and I don't know how to help him see that there is more to life. I have never partied, been drunk, or anything. I am on the straight and narrow but I'm in love with this man who is my other half. How do you cope with an addict in a relationship? I've been lied to, I've been walked out on, I've been let down, promises broken day in and day out... How do you cope? When will he hit bottom? When will he want help?