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My ffiance is a big time drug addict, and not the typical kind either.... he uses cough medicine allergy medicine or anything that can/wI'll get him high.... 
Last night he stole 12 of my mothers anxiety pills then asked her for 1 then took 8 more.....then he had to up his buzz and drank alcohol... alot that my mom will notice..... he does this sell the time I want him to stop but he won't he's been to so mAmy treatment places outpatient inpatient na meeting s he won't stop. He is bi polar and very suicidal... idk what to do he needs help BAD!

orientmom · Answer

I know exactly what you are going through ..once my daughter turned 18 all hell broke loose  she is now 19 (20 in april) and is a heroin addict I have been raising her son which is 3 for a year now ( I don't have custody ) but am going to very soon  she sees him maybe 4- 5 times a month . and doesn't call or ask about him the other times. I know its hard for you but if your fiance is addicted that bad where he steals off your own mother to get high , I would give him the ultimatum to stop now and get help or would walk before its to late I know its hard because you love him  . good luck

jenjen7793 · Answer

He did have a therapist and was on meds,  he abused what they gave him... looking for a treatment center that will take his state insurance and will help with drug and mental health.

GarbageAddict360 · Answer

You say he is Bipolar. Is he on any medication or under the supervision of a doctor or psychiatrist. Many times those who have psychological issues will self medicate if they are not being seen by a professional. We as a society, overlook mental sicknesses and a lot of us addicts suffer from some sort of these sicknesses. He desperately needs to get help, I just hope he is ready. He is very young and from my experiences, a lot of times they are not ready to stop at that age.

Life360_Dave · Answer

Since he was this way when you met him, then you do see past his problem and have a desire to help him. Hes been to so many treatments with out helping his condition so maybe hes going to the wrong places. I think you need to talk to  some professionals yourself about this as why the treatments arnt working. He might need to go to a residence treatment center where he can be correctly diagnosed. This will be through medical, psycological, genitic testing. At 20 his brain is not fully developed and the experts say it is around 24 years of age. I feel a correct diagnosis is whats in order.

vicki595 · Answer

What is he abusing in the cough medicine? DXM?

What he's doing is deadly. The anxiety med/alcohol combo is very dangerous.  He needs a lot of help. Is his family supportive? Is this a person you really think you want to marry and father your children? He's a pretty sick guy right now...

jenjen7793 · Answer

Yes he was when I met him,since he was 15 he is 20 now

Life360_Dave · Answer

Was he abusing drugs when you met him, i mean did you know he was a drug addict and if so has it gotton worse over the years?

jenjen7793 · Answer

Thank you for your concern, and Yes I do care deeply about him.  He needs to be on his bi polar medication which he is not, and also needs therapy, he has ptsd also. 
He goes about two weeks without using then he starts back up,he is addicted to it.

jenjen7793 · Answer

Thank you for your concern, and Yes I do care deeply about him.  He needs to be on his bi polar medication which he is not, and also needs therapy, he has ptsd also. 
He goes about two weeks without using then he starts back up,he is addicted to it.

mary577 · Answer

Jen, yes he needs help, but if he doesn't want to get better, there is nothing anyone can do.   You need to take care of yourself.   This sounds like a disaster in the making, with you caught in the middle.  I'm sorry.   Obviously you care deeply but I am more worried for you than I am for your fiance.