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[gizzy32]

could you please talk to us. there is not one single person on here that does not want to hear from you. although that post got carried away it was not your fault at all and although some words were said, there was no harm intended. i think some people just took that post and ran with it. we are here for you and i think you should do the right thing. you are not alone and can't fight this alone. please talk to us

[swtbreezie]

Giving Gizzy a standing ovation!   WTG, you are so right on!  And lasher please dont leave, this really is a good place with more positive people than negative people, who just want to help you.  RIGHT ON GIZ you go!  NO one should be singled out and beat up for giving an opinion. And you are just being brutally honest you have given so much of yourself and the most wonderful advice on here and showed your genuine caring we all love you well most of us anyway lol  Hang in there!
swtbreezie

[lostmarbles]

BLOODY HELL............................................................. THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY....

[cathy5841]

yeah,  gizzys back.  take care
cathy

[skippysizemore]

LIVE AND LET LIVE.........EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO THEIR OPINION...BUT WORDS DO HURT AND CAN CAUSE SO MUCH PAIN THAT SOMEONE COULD CURL BACK UP INTO THAT BALL THEY WERE SLOWLY UNCURLING, PAINFULLY UNCURLING MIND YOU, MAYBE SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID....THINK BEFORE WE ACT...RIGHT?

[gizzy32]

if you got something to say, start your own post, this was intended for lasherslaugh, who we want to stay on here and help, naughty and monkey, this post was meant to help lasher and once again you butt in, off topic, mind your own business and start your own thread if you want to complain. no one wants to hear it from you anyway,.

[gizzy32]

i still can't believe cause some people voice their opinion on here, you have some cry babies still changing the subject on my post to get away from the point. for those of you that want to leave cause you can't handle someone speaking the truth, then do us a favour and stop crying and don't read if it bothers you and leave the forum. if you think addicts are going to agree everytime, you have more problems than the drugs. stop whining about wanting to leave and stop posting complaining about this forum, i am  tired of it. if you truly find you don't like it here, it's simple, leave, no one is forcing you to stay. if you don't like to hear peoples opinions, then leave, cause that's what this place is about. it boggles my mind why people bother to come on here and complain about this forum. lmao, if you find this hard, you would never be able to attend an N/A meeting and take opinions there, give me a break. im so sick of you people that get on here and whine about this site, take that kind of energy elsewhere. for the most part everyone on here is absolutely wonderful and i luv then, but there are a few that need to open their eyes and stop feeding off posts like this, wake up.

[Yoda99]

   You've been here for quite a while, and you're in the know.  There are two Addiction forums.  This one, the Addiction: Substance Abuse Community and the Addiction: Social Community.  If you go to the top of the posts page, it will describe what the particular forum is for.  This one is for addiction and the social one is for Fishmeal's jokes, your favorite recipe or song, or other off topic items.  I know it's confusing for some, especially the new people.  
   But you're right, we're not all recovering addicts here:  we're addicts, recovering addicts, recovered addicts (if there is such a beast), loved ones of addicts, etc.  And we should not judge.  The drama has happened before unfortunately, and we know from experience the best thing to do is as bmc1976 says:  let's move on...
   Good morning and have a good day,
Yoda (one year clean but still an addict)

[bmc1976]

This is a great forum. 99% of the responses to posts are usually very encouraging. Here we are still dragging this one out. Most did apologize for there responses. Monkey, do not leave. You will not find a better forum out there in my opinion. We all need to chalk that one up as a lesson learned and move on to the real reasons we are here. And the reason is to help one another. Every now and then someone will come on here out of the blue and and try to bash anyone trying to get help just to get some responses. I'm sure not everyone knew lashers history. They should have read her journal before even responding or should have not responded at all. Like I said above, 99% of the time this doesn't happen. Time to get back on the subjects we need to be on. Just my opinion here. Best of luck to all and I don't want anyone to go anywhere!!!

[monkey231]

I just read the post between everyone last night..... Im new on this page, and while some of you apologized, I still cant believe the things that some of you said....Being new here, it makes me very uncomfortable.  I dont think anyone should have to second guess anything that they write on here in fear that they will get a response like that.....I think many of you were completely out of line....Everyone is supposed to be supporting eachother....As for her comment being a "trigger"  WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD...I feel so bad for this poor girl.  Some of you just completely attacked her for her honesty, I for one apreciate it....And Im really going to start trying to find a new support forum, which is a shame, because some of you guys are really great, but Im not going to sit here and have to worry about whats going to be said if I say something you dont like, I have enough to worry about with trying to get off the drugs, I dont need to worry about the people who are supposed to be supporting me turning there backs and acting like children.  Take a look at your selves, and stop being so judgemental.

[NautyOne]

We are not all recovering addicts on this forum.  I read posts on a regular basis of people using, detoxing, relapsing, so we are by far to judge anyone.  This is a substance abuse forum.......I thought that meant for people abusing substances......Is that not why they created another forum "addiction community"  thats where the addicts in recovery are suppose to be chatting.  I thought that we are here to support people who are abusing substances and try to provide support not bashing them for what they are doing.  The one's who are using.......most likely are bashing themselves enough, they don't need a further whipping from people.  If anyone should understand it should be us.

[cathy5841]

lasher, i for one definately miss you.  we are struggling...lets do it together.
cathy

[worried878]

If you do not come back or whether you do, i think we all learned a lesson...we are all not on our best behavior here at all times...damn...we are a bunch of recovering addicts...give us a break!...In my former life that I am returning to,  i was not  so focused on ME i was much more patient!   I think!   maybe not anyway.....get a group like this together and fireworks can fly...fly in july!  summer is coming and we will be so happy...winter sucks!....Hey come on whenever you want and slash a post I make and we can be even...lol   nah...would like to  hear from you

[gizzy32]

the problem with last nights post was some people had no right to drag it on and on, pouring more fire on it, making it 10X worse. i feel bad for lasher cause she did not bring this on. people were entitled to their opinion that they didn't like the post, but it should have ended there. lasher you are cared about and i even said i didn't understand that post, but nobody was angry with you in general. i hope you stick around.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Yeah and not to mention were are all recovering too. Not always having good days ourselves. I hope you don't decide to isolate. I have tried that and I was my worst enemy.

[feohmoon]

It seems that a lot of people care about you, I certainly want you to be feeling well and happy - Normally on this forem there is such compassion.  Perhaps it was just meant to be for whatever reason.  I would like to think we all took something positive from this.  With so many people, such diversity - it is easy to understand where different perspectives come into play...Hopefully you will continue to post...It helps so much to have the support and 'company'.  
Best of luck to you.  I am here if you need anything.

[Yoda99]

   I just read your journal post also.  In all fairness, I think a lot of explaining and apologizing was done to you, and I hope you were able to read those posts.  It's unfortunate that by communicating in writing, words can be interpreted in different ways.  When I first read your original post, I also wanted to respond because it brought back bad memories for me even after being a year clean.  But I didn't respond because anything can trigger those bad memories, and I certainly couldn't blame you when I wasn't even sure where you were coming from.
   Only you can make the decision to leave and if you feel that's what is best for you at this point, then do what you think you must.  But just know that we are here to support and encourage everyone that struggles with addiction.  No one wants you to leave; again, that's your decision.
   I do hope you change your mind.  This forum was a life saver for me, literally, and I think you would benefit too.  
Good luck to you with whatever you decide to do,
Yoda