my mother is killing her self

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in august 1999 my mother was ran over by a semi truck riding her peddel bike all her right ribs were broken her pelvis was broken in 7 diffrent places her ribs puncutered her lungs she hade sutomunus in bolth her lungs and the handel from the bike went in to here thigh all the way to the bone she was on life support for 3 months and she pulled through and iv helped her learn how to walk all over agne and do everyday things at the age of 13 i was taking care of my mom and brother and she means so much to  me she is in alot of pain but she overmeds her self she can do everything she used to do befor the accadent but all she dose is sit in her room at her house and take pills this is what she is on you would not beleave this     200micro grams phentonal patches every 48houers  every 2 houers she takes 5norco 10/325 and 5 soma 350mg i drove her home one day and she passed out in my car i hade to carry her in to the house she needs help bad this is gitting old she needs to go on that show intervention i just dont know what to do n e more iv seen her doing this my whole life and i cant take it n e more shes constentley gitting messed up in public i have to help her walk its that bad i just doint know what to do sorry for venting on you guys but i have no one to talk to about it thank you

allaboutmary · Answer

Your situation is heartbreaking.  It sounds like it is time to put yourself first. You are so young and need to get on with YOUR life. I know this sounds awful because she is your mother, but she is making her choice. Try gradually taking your life back. Have her take a cab if she needs to go somewhere etc. , and do try to get to an Ala-non meeting. Also print up some info on Suboxone and leave it for her to read.  Sending you much strength. Mary

jmartire · Answer

i am 21 now and i am a he bro iv tryed everything evey time she leaves or refuses help i even went to a court and they see it as shes not a danger to n e one but her self sence she dont leave home and dont go n e were or drive

GeorgeD · Answer

That 20000 MG of tylinol is not just bad it can cause acute and total liver failure that could kill her within a few hours of ingestion. At least learn the signs of that so you can get her immediate medical help

bluespence · Answer

it looks like she is 23, if you figure she said this happened in 1999 and she was 13 at the time, she would now be 23...just FYI

Denise

MysteryPrognosis · Answer

Something needs to change. I don't know how long she has been doing this norco regimine. But if she really is taking that much, she's ingesting almost 20,000 mgs of tylenol a day. The max daily dose is 4000mgs. I know people that get addicted take way more that 4000 mgs of tylenol, but not 20000. With all the opiates there is a potential for overdose, but with all that tylenol...permenant, potentially fatal damage to her kidneys and liver is a certainty. She needs to stop abusing the opiates, but she must stop taking in that much tylenol ASAP. Good luck. Listen to those above...you can't do this on your own, and its not your responsibility. You need to get an adult involved. Good luck. I'm sorry this is happening, but your a great son for taking care of her the way you have.

Cylee · Answer

Hi, your mom needs to get help.  I am also on methadone and it saved my life.  I was addicted to opiates and once I joined the methadone program I was able to stop.  My life is now back to normal.  No more spending all my time taking drugs and trying to get drugs.  But your mother has to want to stop.  Maybe you could talk to her doctor or locate a methadone clinic in your area and find out how she goes about becoming a patient (or client as they like to call us).   Once you have the information you could try to talk to her about it and provide her with the information to join.  It all depends on her wanting to stop and get her life back.  You shouldn't have to spend your life taking care of her though.  This is her problem and you should just go on with your life and let her deal with the consequences of her actions.  Don't babysit her or clean up after her or enable her in any way.  This is her problem not yours!  Sounds to me like you have done more than enough.  Best of luck to you and please go live your life and be happy.

cathy5841 · Answer

hi, you did not say in your post how old youare, but i do think  it is time for a little tough love withmom.  you have taken care of her long enough.  find a good rehab or alternative to all the stuff she is taking...offer it to her and then say i am done.  i can no longer babysit a druggout mom...you have to be serious and the al-anon or narc an-non will help you.  you cant just watch her slip deeper into the coma...

GeorgeD · Answer

First you have to understand pain or not your mother has a serious addiction. She's not just dependent on her pain meds, she is in full blown addiction. There's a difference. 

I used to take norco (not nearly as much) and if I added 3 Soma I couldn't stand up. I later realize Soma Coma isn't just passing out, it can kill you as can the narcotics.

She needs help and unfortunately that won't happen until she sees it herself. I suggest you hook up with AlaTeen, an organization for teens dealing with addicted friends of falily. You can learn a lot from them what you can and can't do to help your mother.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ can help you find a chapter.

Good luck.

Munkerlilly · Answer

How did methadone save your life?

Holliee · Answer

yea that is a hard one to handle...since she has true pain she might be better off on methadone at least they would not let her do other drugs they drug test and they would keep her at lvl that normal just a thought...I am on methadone. It has saved my life... message me if you have question holliee

jmartire · Answer

well in the begining her and my dad when i was younger doing scames manley my dad but he would call the pharmacy pertending to be all diffrent doctors he even hade there dea numbers and everything and was calling in percriptions for him anf my mom that did this for at least 7 years n then my dad got cought and ever sence then she hooped from doctor to dr and they all cought on now she sees one dr her painmanagement dr but the thing is she got 1.8million in her settelment from the accident and she buys them off the dtreet 500 at a time of the norco she gits soma and patches from her dr

Holliee · Answer

wow she is on a lot and one doc gives her all that....try talking to her...maybe asking her doc take down little bit i mean 5 soma thats crazy that make anyone in soma coma wow good luck to you and your mom....her liver has to be in bad shape w/all those meds