HELP! Husband is caving

[opiateswon]

My husband's been clean for 6 days and he just sent me a message that he gives up and he's going to find some pain pills. I'm helpless to my own addiction with one day longer than him under my belt. I don't want him to fall again but I am torn between frustration and getting really POed. I told him to come home so I could help him but HE'S a MAN and won't listen. We almost lost our marriage to this........ I don't know what to do. Please help me reach him.

[bucksfan]

God Bless You gizzy. You always try and help even after you have become clean. You did not think only of yourself, like I have and many others I am sure have. We come here when we quit and then leave.We Post only questions we have and do not care about the next person. Well this time I will stay!. I will post once a day no matter how busy I am!

[opiateswon]

Ok, he's home and sober....... Thanks I'm still pissy but at the addiction, not him.

[opiateswon]

I already massassed his ego and my need for him to do this for us and our kids. I'm not very tolerant of screw-ups and don't know how I would handle him going back to them. I won't take the path with him, I can't. No-matter how much I adore him, I want more than addictions for my kids and myself. So frusterated with the stupid things right now.......

[gizzy32]

Tell him if he uses you will kick his *** and he can sleep at the bus stop, lol. Serious though, text him back and tell him how your finding it so hard hard right now and his using will affect you also and you need him to be strong. It really is tough, but I hope he does the right thing. Keep trying and do your best to stay calm

[opiateswon]

What do I do if he does use? I feel so confused right now and really mad. He just sent a text saying he's not using.... yet. I don't know what to say or think right now. He'll be off work in 15 minutes and I hope I'm a little calmer by then.

[opiateswon]

Thanks! I'm trying to reach him but he won't answer. He won't text or respond so I feel pretty overwhelmed right now. I'm ****** that I've been working my but off to do housework and get things we need when I don't want to drive. God I'm mad1

[gizzy32]

P.S. Congrats on a week clean, you need to be strong for both of you right now.

[gizzy32]

Does he have a cell phone? Getting clean together is very difficult sometimes and you have to also make sure this don't cause a relapse for yourself. Lets hope he was saying this out of frustration and does not get any. Can you get in touch with him right now? Hey some men listen, lol. Try to stay calm till you hear from him, both of you dont' want to be all stressed and upset with each other, it will do no good. Try to calm down until you get in touch with him and make sure he does not bring any pills  in the house. Maybe this advice *****, but you can't let this take you down also. Keep us updated ok.