morals

[levi79]

I am with a girl who is addicted to lorcets for the past 5 years....to make a long story short I was just curious how the need for the pills will affect your morals.  she is not the type to cheat on her partner, but when she is on these pills or wanting them, would that need take over and make her do what she would not normally do?  like if a guy who gets her these pills had an obsession over her and he offered sex for drugs would it be real easy for someone who is addicted to do that?  i myself have never been addicted to drugs no matter how many i take or how long i take them, i can always quit cold turkey at anytime, so i dont understand it like an addict would.....

any words of advice will do....thanks

[dominosarah]

I forgot to mention, she is lucky to have you and she knows that deep down.  Just stand your ground levi and support her recovery.....No more drugs!!

[dominosarah]

Was she experiencing any wd symptoms?  That happens with tapering too but the symptoms arent as bad.  

She is a good person and she needs to see that too.  I hope she will come here and check us out.  She deserves a life free from the pills.  Being a prisoner to them is no fun.  I am 48 and spent the majority of my life abusing alcohol and drugs.  She will find sooooo much support here.  We are all in different stages here.  We have many who are tapering too.  We dont judge others or make them feel ashamed, we just try to show everyone there is a better way......I hope you can get her on here.  Let us know how it is going      sara

[levi79]

thats funny cuz i was telling her this morning she needs to check out this forum.  she thinks she is the only person who is going through this and i tell her there are many people and she doesnt need to feel ashamed.  she was making it out that the tapering is not that hard right now.  she used to take about 10 a day and says she is at 3 a day now. im with her all the time and know when she gets them and all the ******** she has to go through.  its an all day thing that she cant hide.  she said the only time of her lilfe she quit was when she was pregnant and that was twice!  
i totally agree with you that im helping her die and just didnt see it like that.  
she had about 30 pills last night at work and they dissappeared from her purse.  she works at a restaurant and i think one of the dope fiends up there stole them before he quit the place.  she would leave her purse in the damn break room wide open...but anyways I think im going to try to see if she is ready to go cold turkey.  supposedly she has been tapering for a month now so i guess now is as good a time as any.  
regardless of whether she cheated on me or not, i know i cant leave her like this.  
i think counseling is a good idea too Sarah....her marriage of 11 years was pure hell and he left her very scarred and i think a lot of her addiction is to hide what he has done to her since she was 18...shes 30 now.  
thanks sarah, i see why you are big on this site.....thanks soooo much for your words, it really helps

[dominosarah]

When i was using i could of convinced anyone to buy ocean front property in Minnesota.  Please dont score anymore pills for her.  All that is doing is enabling her to keep using.  We see death on this forum from od'g.  It is reality and we cant stress enough about how dangerous drug use is.  If you love her like you say you do then help her live, not die.  I am in no way being an a$$ about this, just stating the facts.  Tapering is so very tough to do on your own so i have my doubts about her sticking to that.  Is there anyway she would get into some counseling?  Using is only a symptom of what is really going on with her.  Would she be willing to check out the forum here?  I know you want the best for her and as one lady said here support her recovery, not her addiction......sara

[SingleMotherOFf3NeedingPills]

It really depends how bad she is addicted and how long she has been on them. At one point in my life I was pawning anything and everything just to get money to get some. I would steal the dimes quarters and nickels out of my parents huge money jar......when you are needing them sometimes u will do anything......

[levi79]

i dont give her money cuz i really dont have any :)  i do help her get pills from my old friends though.  we broke up more than once and go back cuz she totally denies sleeping with that guy and i feel she would of just broke down and admitted it by now, i have grilled her and brought it up over and over to a point where i figure she would just leave me for good to not hear me talk about him anymore.  
i just assume she was leading him on so he would sell them for 2 bucks a piece instead of 4 or 5 like normal.  i feel if she wanted him then all she has to do is be with him cuz he has what she wants anyways....sometimes i just feel like a total idiot and what other guy would still be with her?  she admits to sleeping with him 1 time before we were together and i feel if you did it once you did it more than that and its a lil easier to do that with someone you have already in the past.  
well anyways its all he said she said right now and she tells me she wants to quit and we are tapering her pills now, but she holds them and i never really know what she has.  it could all be lies for all i know...
well thanks guys for your response....i do know that i love her and i want her to get off these pills, but i know i cant sacrifice myself for her if she wont ever stop.....

[dominosarah]

An addicts first love is the drugs and we will do whatever we have to do to feed our addiction.  When i was using my morals were thrown out the window.  I hope your gf will get some help with this.  She is heading down a dead end road.  Do you give her money?  

I hope you know that drug addiction will grab you by the kahoonies and take you down before you know what hit you.  You may be controlling it right now but there will come a time when that wont be the case.....Please stay away from the drugs.  It ruins lives and is deadly........sara

[Back2Me]

Yes it causes VERY bad judgement. Trust me on this one. It turns you into a completely different person. I don't know your girl but I would say it would be very possible.