MY boyfriend is addicted to marijuana and vicotin. HELP

[peyton37]

I am new to this so bare with me. I am getting desperate for some guidance with this. I have known my boyfriend for twelve years but we have only been very serious and living together for two years. He is addicted to marijuana and vicotin. I know he smokes weed everyday and I think does pills almost everyday to. We have gone through all the fights and emotions about it and he knows it really is hurting me. He lies about it and I have to find evidence of the pills everytime to know that he started using again or maybe he never quit. He told me seven months ago that he was going to quit and knew we couldn't have a future together if he didn't. I just found out a few days ago that he didn't quit. I had to find the pills stashed away in an aspirin bottle. He has been pulled over and arrested for marijuana about a year and a half ago but still drives with a pipe or his one hitter in the car. I have told him I am unhappy,even cried alot in front of him but nothing is changing. I do love him very much but also am looking for a way out. I quess I just need to hear some advise from SOMEONE! I have a 16 year old son who last year went through a stage of smoking marijuana. I barely got through that. He has stopped now and completely changed his life. HE GOT IT! Thank GOD!! He is doing so well now. I don't know what to do next? HHow should I handle this?

[pitbullmom]

he vicodin addiction is probly worse then u think. usually we only admit to a lil bit . my bf left me the biggest reason was pills i got it after he left but now its too late for us. u may have to stop the crying and show sum tough luv. tho weed isnt physically addicting it is mentally iv smoked alot for a long time. u may hv to tell him he will lose u if he dsnt get help if that dont work then he is just not ready and u cant do anything but take care of u and wish him the best

[gnarly_1]

HI welcome to the forum....first off your B/F has to want to stop for him to get help this may include him hitting his rock bottom b/4 this happens your powerless to help all you can do is watch and try to protect yourself and your son this is not a good example for your son to be around especially if he is recovering himself you need to make some hard decisions the only way your going to stop the madness is to get away from it.......I know that sounds harsh but living with an addict is tuff and calles for drastic measures try having a heart to heart talk with him explain how you feel and express what your going to do if you dont see him get help this is a very treatable diesese help is out there if he wants it N/A would be a good start all you need is the desire to stop have him check it out good luck and God bless......Gnarly