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How do I save myself from alcoholism?
OK well like a lot of people, I am heavy alcohol drinker and when I mean heavy I mean that sometimes I can go without for about 3 weeks to a month but when I do drink its like I binge drink for days. Beers all day mostly. I don't drink hard liquor as much. I noticed that with this binge drinking (which I can't say 100% is to blame) I have gain close to 20 pounds in two years as I used to be 180 at 5'9. Great weight for me. Loved it.. Over the two year span I continued to binge drink on occasions and for days I had off work. I secretely feel ashamed of myself for letting my weight increase this much as I am one of those people who gain weight in their cheeks first more than anything else so it shows right in my face. My pregnant fiancee, still looks at me the same or at least she might pretend to but I have my days when I'm ok with my weight and then days when I feel ashamed to have gained weight from alcohol addiction. My addiction also plays a negative on my body because I have severe gerd so for me sometimes binge drinking takes a toll and I end up in stomach tightness fatigue and dizziness for days. I need help as I'm only 24 so this Is gonna get even worse if I continue. I'm ashamed to say I'm addicted to beer and liquor because when I do drink I feel great but afterwards possibly horrible. Its about to be new years and I have been postponing visits to my family because of my weight gain. I'm about 195 right now at 5'9. Its nota horrible weight gain but I know I need to stopit now andd change my life. Any tips, if I reallyfeel like the weight lloss plan could work then I believe I can quit drinking, only problem is when I work out I get gerd attacks and constantly belch and have horrible reflux. My life is a whirlwind. I am a man with a good head on my shoulders as far as everything else I just have thisproblem and I wanna change my life dramatically.. =\ I hate feeling hopeless but my depression is as real as it will ever be.
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U've gotten some great feedback here...sure hope u put it 2 use!nothing else novel I can add!its ALL up 2 u!
"How do I save myself from Alcoholism"
Answer: STOP DRINKING!!!! Simple!
How you do it is up to you. We all had different reasons for quiting. Those reasons were strong enough to make us want to MAKE the Change.
There are no self help books that will tell you HOW to stop drinking. You and You alone have to make this happen, because You are the only one living inside yourself--if you want it bad enough , just do it.
We can only help you through "maintaining" that sobriety--but you have to start the ball rolling by throwing alcohol out of your life. Take it ONE DAY AT A TIME!
Sincerely,
CM
Sounds like there are two things going on in your head right now regarding alcohol, a desire to drink it and a desire not to drink it.
When the desire not to drink out weighs the desire to drink, only then you will be able to stop.
You can strengthen the desire to not drink by bringing some accountability into the mix, be it AA, confiding in a pastor or trusted friend, etc. the thing you need to do is let someone hold you accountable and help you through the cravings when the com on.
You can get some really great help here. I wish you well....it is alot of fun being sober!
When the desire not to drink out weighs the desire to drink, only then you will be able to stop.
You can strengthen the desire to not drink by bringing some accountability into the mix, be it AA, confiding in a pastor or trusted friend, etc. the thing you need to do is let someone hold you accountable and help you through the cravings when the com on.
You can get some really great help here. I wish you well....it is alot of fun being sober!
Thank you very much. I've always had a problem with the idea of an AA meeting because it was hard to admit that I couldn't quit drinking on my own. I still feel like I can but my thing is I don't want it to be too late before I come to that conclusion of quitting. I'm grateful for your response and this site. I do definitely need to see a doctor as this plays a part of my anxiety disorder as well. All I want to be is a great example for my step son and my daughter. A great father. Do you have any self help books that I can read?
Hi & welcome. Probably first step is to attend an AA meeting. There you will learn ways to abstain from drink. Your Self esteem is suffering. At the meeting others who have this problem will give you a sense of community.
Getting fit by joining the Gym, YMCA or taking up a sport. As you know, seeking approval from your Medical Doctor is always a good idea before starting an exercise program. The reflux can be addressed at this point too.
Your self worth is not determined by your trouser size, feeling good about ones self is something important to learn. Some do Affirmations.
Look in the mirror & say with feeling, " I am a loving person. I give & receive love freely."! Do this 3 x per day. It's the basis of countless self help books.
You sound like a very strong person. I have confidence you can turn your
Life around. Let us know. Pamela
Getting fit by joining the Gym, YMCA or taking up a sport. As you know, seeking approval from your Medical Doctor is always a good idea before starting an exercise program. The reflux can be addressed at this point too.
Your self worth is not determined by your trouser size, feeling good about ones self is something important to learn. Some do Affirmations.
Look in the mirror & say with feeling, " I am a loving person. I give & receive love freely."! Do this 3 x per day. It's the basis of countless self help books.
You sound like a very strong person. I have confidence you can turn your
Life around. Let us know. Pamela
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So I called that guy from work, we went to a meeting and I never touched another drop of alcohol for over 28 years. I didn't have to drink anymore nor did I want to drink. But I had to change. If I don't change nothing changes. The 12 steps have helped me change. The one main thing I learned from all of this: "my own thinking will NEVER fix my own thinking. My own thinking is what got me to the point where I became an alcoholic. Once I've crossed that borderline I'm an alcoholic for life. Only complete sobriety can make and keep me normal. I learned that my drinking is only a symptom of the much larger disease of alcoholism. Just the tip of the iceberg. It's the rest of the iceberg that will always need continuing treatment. I will never be cured nor will I graduate.
Us AAs never need to go into bars and recruit members. Alcohol will do that for us. At my group we have a saying: "if you want to drink that's your business. If you want to quit, then it becomes our business." You're always welcomed at our meetings.