I;m scared i;m becoming an alcoholic, help please!!!!! i'm only 16..

[GemmaaSmith]

Hi, my names Gemma, I'm 16.
I'm very scared that i'm becoming an alcoholic..
My dad is an alcoholic and i'm scared i'm inheriting genes or something.
Everytime i go out with my friends i always get drunk.
I feel like i cant have fun wihtout alcohol
Even today..i felt like i NEEDED a drink..just anything,
so thisafternoon i got a big glass of jack daniels.
And tonight i've had 2 glasses of jack daniels.
i reallyyyyy want to finnish the bottle,but im scared my mum will notice
theres also a bottle of cava and a bottle of blosson hill
but their both unopened,and my mum will noticed if i open them..
but i really want to..
i njust always want a drink,
and by best friends mums and dads know i drink and smoke alot,
so i'm considered a bad influenence..
my mum and dad also know i drink.
my dad lets me drink with him.
i just feel really bad because all i want is a drink,all the time.
i hate being sober,because i'm really boring when im sober
i would just really like some support from anyone,pleasee
(I'm drunk as i write this =/ , but my typings quite good..lol;)
i would really like some help,
because i reakky dont know what to do
because i really love drinking..
please help.. !!!
Thanks. :) xo

[surfin]

It's so good to see that you're worried about your drinking at your age.  I can definitely relate to the feeling of always wanting a drink, and more and more and more.  All the advice here is good.  I'm 21, and I've been sober for 5 months, and it's working out great!  Just remember, you never have to drink again if you don't want to, but you can't do it alone, and that's where AA comes in.  I've heart people speak at the meetings who get sober at your age, it's truly amazing.  Good luck!

[ibizan]

so glad u r in this forum reading and learning....as usual narlas words of wisdom ring true....so many here that are serious about their recovery r here to help u!i started when i was 14-went thru inpatient treatment at 28 and am now 55....so glad i began young...but YOU accepting the facts that its causing problems at 16 is very wise for ur age!

[narla]

Hi,we are all hear to try and help - I think you'll get more responses if you start a new post,just hit post a question at the top of the page and let us know your story,it will be easier to reply to your personal circumstances.
I'll just quickly let you know I started abusing alcohol at 14 which lasted until I was 47,believe me it was the hardest thing in the world to stop after so long,I was doing damage to my liver, my reason for stopping.I am now 387 days into my sobriety,best decision I've ever made
If you really want to it would be easier to stop now don't wait until it gets harder,there are a lot of people on here who will listen and help you with advice,you're only 16 and know you have a problem don't wait another 30 years to do something about it.

Take Care and keep posting
I wish there was a place like this when I was 16

Denise

[crushhx]

hi ibizan, i'm 16 and the exact same, everything you are saying is true for me too. i'm sitting writing this just now, ill from drinking severly last night. everyones advice has helped me too as well as you. it's my mother that's the alcoholic in my family, also her mum and auntie was too, so like you said i'm worried it could be genetic.
hope to hear from you or someone soon, thanks xx

[GemmaaSmith]

Thank you so much!!! i'm so glad i have your support because everyone i know would just laugh at me. And your right about keeping safe,many a time i have got into situations where i could have been raped but i have learnt my lessons and i now know how to take care of myself,because i know noone else will. I will keep in touch :)

[ibizan]

well my dear we  and u knew u would drink at the party!i hope u watch ur drinks and never take one from someone already mixed easy for one to slip a mickey in it i've talked to many girls over the years this happened too...girls get raped that way..also drinking to point where easy to be physically overpowered by a so-called party friend......just trying to get u to THINK more......and i'm so glad that the light has gone on upstairs for u at your young age....many ur age don't consider the future..or present dangers of overimbibing!!!please stay in touch with us here...we do care what happens to u!:)

[GemmaaSmith]

thank you so much for that comment,you said a lot of things that rang true,i mean i don't know if i want to quit drinking right now,yes i did drink at that party,and the morning after it,the only reason why i want to quit early is i'm scared in the future it will become a massive problem,and i will lose everything,That is the main reason,i'm terrified i will end up like my dad.I did feel really ashamed though,when my friend said they smelt vodka in my tea.It's the summer holidays atm,but,unlike last year,i'm determind not to drink almost every single day,maybe spend more time with my mum and brother.
And 11 months! well done!! i'm very happy for you :) x

[ibizan]

Awesome comment!very true!unfortunately but it seems to be the human way....ppl have to put themselves thru some mighty research efforts b4 they make the comittment to abstain....and go thru some pain....seems to be the way we humans learn!11 months is cool...u keep a going!:)

[stutterheart1]

I'd bet you drank last night, right? Don't expect that you can go to a party and not drink, at least for a while. As a point of reference, I quite drinking 11 months ago on my 5th 'real' try and it was only after about 6 months that I could be around old friends and habits. This makes it all the more difficult for you because you are at that age where you'll not want to  hang out with the non-drinkers yet you can't be around the drinkers if you want to stay sober.
Why do you want to quit drinking? is it affecting your performance at school, athletics or in your social circle? The fact that you are aware of your addiction makes my confident that you will be able to handle it when the time is right. Perhaps you don't need to quit drinkin yet. Maybe it's just a phase. I'm not saying this to urge you to keep drinking but I want you to know that it is an hurculean effort that needs to be put forth when you actually want to stop and I think that the pain of sacrificing your friends, your lifestyle and your 'comfort in booze' is much higher than the pain of what you have to lose is you continue drinking.
You would be prudent to set down a list of goals: example: go to a certain level of university to study for XYZ and attain a certain lifestyle thereafter. If  you fear that you can't keep your eye on the ball in order to do that, then you need to give up your friends and do what it takes to accomplish your goals. It may not seem like it now, but life past high school is just the beginning and you'll want to set yourself up for a good start into adulthood. If you make it past university and your first two years of a job, you can screw up a bunch and still get by. But if you screw up now, you could ruin your life forever.
There must be a local AA chapter or a counselor who can take you on. it helps to start talking about these things early and I commend you for doing so. Just know that we have a very bad disease and it's going to likely take you a lot more effort than you currently envision for you to quit.

[ibizan]

that will be difficult dear but i know u will test urself. many of us here did many a time....always remember ppl are focused more on what their drinking than what u r....their buzz matters more than u and urs.....keep us posted!:)

[GemmaaSmith]

Thanks ibizan, i'm going to a party tomorow,and i've decided i'm going to try my absolute hardest not to drink :) and i'm also going to find out more about AA, i'll let you's know how the not drinking goes :) x

[ibizan]

Boogieman and Lars have given u good advice....NO u r not 2 young to go to AA...over here in USA we have Young Ppl's AA..age range 15-30!When i got sober in 1983 and i was 28 i sat in rooms with young ppl 16 on up that had more sobriety than i!I realize u r young and all ur chums do this it sounds but if u want to arrest this now u can!

[GemmaaSmith]

Thanks,but i don't feel like i can talk to anyone in school.Also the subject of alcohol is too touchy with my mother as living with an alcoholic was very hard, she has suspected me of being an alcoholic though.Am i not too young to go to aa? Thanks for the advice though,i now know that i'm on a dangerous path =/ .

[boogieman]

hi there. you sound like you're on a dangerous path. i would highly recommend finding an alcoholics anonymous group in your area and check them out. even if you've been drinking (don't drive of course). i'm going to send you a link to aa in the uk that should help. i was just like you when i was your age. i had some really good times, but it turned on me and went from wanting to really wanting to needing a drink, and it has taken me years to break free. keep posting and let us know how you're doing. take care, gm

[Lar16]

Alcohol is very inherited.  Both my grandfathers and my mother are alcoholics and I never thought I was one until recently.  I am on Day Four clean and am having a hard time not pouring myself a beer tonight.  You need to talk to a school counselor and get some help before this gets out of hand.  If you are drinking this much at your young age, it will only get worse.  You must stop completely.  Please seek help and perhaps share with your mother.  Maybe she can add some insight after living with an alcoholic for so many years.

I wish you all the best.