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Drinking too much
Heres where I'm at : I am drinking a bottle of wine every day... have been doing this for 2 years. I know its not good for me ... but LOVE the darn stuff!! I am so ashamed and embarrassed to ask for help.. Can anyone relate to this.? What do I do? I am so afraid of not being able to quit.
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I can totally relate to that.
Do people see you drunk? Do you behave foolishly when you drink, do you do and say things when you drink that you regret the following day? If the answer is yes to any or all of these questions then you can change the feelings of shame & embarrassment to pride, you can get back some self respect by making that first step and asking for help, I did a few years ago and it was the best move I ever made.
You can start by finding an AA group near you, get to a meeting. You should also talk with your Doctor.
The foundation of good sobriety is honesty, you need to be honest first with yourself about your drinking.....
Do people see you drunk? Do you behave foolishly when you drink, do you do and say things when you drink that you regret the following day? If the answer is yes to any or all of these questions then you can change the feelings of shame & embarrassment to pride, you can get back some self respect by making that first step and asking for help, I did a few years ago and it was the best move I ever made.
You can start by finding an AA group near you, get to a meeting. You should also talk with your Doctor.
The foundation of good sobriety is honesty, you need to be honest first with yourself about your drinking.....
My behavior doesn't show I drink this much. I don't go out a lot and I do drink at home. No one knows how much I drink.. My husband is starting to notice. I know there is a place for me to go .to get help. I don't want things to get out of hand and do something I may regret. I'm so afraid of AAmeetings that tell you everything is anonymous... well I know everyone in town! I grew up here and worked for schools for 30 years. I never drank to cope until about 4 years ago. Thanks for your response, I do admire your sobriety. What did you do to replace the alcohol?
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Ur husband doesn't notice u drink at home?is he a drinker?does he have vision problems?how many years have u drank at home for?
Oh he does notice I drink.... and has commented on when is the wine going to end.. he's even said i've been drunk a few times. He is not a great communicater... part of my problem. I use alcohol as company in the evenings. He is glued to the TV. I hide it so he can't see how much I am drinking. I don't think he knows I drink during the day.... If I tell him the extent of my problem, I may get into a situation where he could be in a parenting position with me.... I would rather go online and get help anonymously... it is my responsibility to take care of this..hopefully I can stop drinking . He rarely drinks.... does not have a problem with liquor... he came from a big family of alcoholics. And.... over the past 4 years I have steadily increased the amount I drink... last 2 years most every day ...... started drinking whenever during the day (not every day) for maybe a year.
I needed to hear the keyword "YET".... Thank you so much... I had a feeling I was slowly spiraling down.............. I still want to see if online support can get me through this. I may have to get into AA... very risistant now.
COMMUNITY LEADER
refusing to seek help w/ur drinking is like being in the boxing ring w/ur good old pal open bottle of alcohol that u drink....and it keeps knocking u out!step out of the ring.....go to AA keep an open mind listen and don't compare urself out of the room!resistance is wasted energy!
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I did not have to do anything to replace the drink, I started and I continue to enjoy my life, my family and my friends. I can now get through any dramas that life sends my way without the crutch of a drink.
Who do you expect you will meet in an AA meeting, in the meetings you will meet people like you. They are there for one reason and that is to get & stay sober, if your husband is starting to notice things then it's only a matter of time before others will as well.
When I first went to AA I was terrified of who would see me and who I would meet at the meetings, I met many people that I knew, not one of them was surprised to see me there but they were all prepared to go out of their way to offer support & advice. The first meeting was the most difficult, today I have many friends from AA, we go for coffee or a meal regularly. It is good to have people who look out for me :)