Strange habits

[hiswife178]

My husband is an alcoholic and has been for over 15 years, he is now 45, His checks are splotchy get with purple and red viens, he has terrible loose bowel movments several times daily, sometimes falls and just lays there passed out if i try to help him he tells me to leave him alone, he has never been violent until the other day when he threw a chair, I know this is all from drinking but he has this habit of peeing in the bathroom sink, even when he is not drinking, the only time he sits is to have a bowel movement, I have tried to talk to him about it,threatened him and even went as far as trying to take the bathroom sink right out. Needless to say I will not clean it and nor does he. I use the kitchen sink for everything the shameful thing is, that I had to tell out of town relitives not to use the sink, I told them why and that still didn't shame my husband, I am really starting to fear his mental health and him
also he lies about everything no matter how small or big. What is happening here? Is this all alcohol related or is it some other issues here too?

[dominosarah]

Please do something about your situation ASAP.  You deserve to have some happiness in your life.  Time to get you back.  Life doesnt have to be this way.  Until your husband wants to get help there is nothing you can do for him but there is a ton of things you can do for you and that is what is important now.   All the best,      sara

[hiswife178]

Its been 15 years, but it really started showing 5 yrs ago when we moved to another state and away from friends and family,  your right about time going by fast, and now I am going to do whatever it takes to get back to myself, the screwed up thing is, is that my husband is on disability and all the organizations are there for him at no cost, and he still won't seek help. I know I deserve better than what I now have

[ibizan]

how many years have u lived your life this way with him being this way?has it gone fast in retrospect?if u do nothing and stay with this insanity the equal numer of years will go even quicker!He is choosing to kill himself and u r powerless over him......move forward and live your life minus this craziness........theew is no sticker price on sanity and peace!Claim it for yourself!

[hiswife178]

I have talked to someone in the mental health community all they could tell me without seeing was that he really needs to see a doctor asap, but he says that he knows he's an alcoholic and he does not care because he enjoys drinking. As for me, your right it is time to move on, I am on a waiting list for counsling and I feel real positve about going and am looking forward it. There are alot of legal issues that would need to be worked out and I know there will most likely be problems that will be hard to work out, but if the outcome is my saftey and peace of mind, it will be worth it, although a little part of me is afraid of what he will do when he realizes I'm really going to do it. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
God Bless

[dominosarah]

He needs to be seen by a doctor real quick and you need to check out alanon and get your life back.  Please dont wait until it is too late.    sara

[boogieman]

Hi there. I am sorry you are going through this, but as already posted, it sounds like he's in bad shape. I would highly recommend that you check out alanon- for your own well being, and you can always bring your concerns here. There are folks here that have been right where you are, as well as experienced alcoholism first hand. Take care, GM

[working dog]

i think he's had it..the alcohol has him so messed up he may never come out of it...maybe it's time for you to get out...have a life without alcohol..think about whats coming up if you stay...not much fun......good luck...billy