Wife has taken new step into drinking

[nitramroneedshelp]

Ok, I thought I would post this here as most of the posts are old and just needed somewhere to talk.  My wife and I have been married for 15 years and she has drank alot during the whole time we have been married, but never to the length of what it has become recently.

She only drinks wine and beer, but will never stop at just one drink, if the wine bottle opens the first glass will be a normal 8oz then the next is double, and the next the whole glass ( and this is not a small wine glass) until the bottle is gone.  Beer is the same way, open one drink it, then the next time its 2 beers in one big glass, until its 7 - 8 in one sitting.
lately she has been buying 2 32oz beers on friday and drinking between the time she gets home 3pm and the time I get home 5- 5:30 then drinking 2 or 3 more.  The reason I know what she has been doing is we have 12 year old son and 9 year old daughter who go with her everywhere, they tell me what she buys.

Over the last 2 weeks she has slowed down on the beer and wine, and she started carrying around a big jug called a "bubba keg"  which hold almost 40 oz of liquid, she said she is trying to start drink more water and less soda, and she has clear liquid with ice in it.

Well I should have known that it was not just water, last night night I was looking for some cables in my wifes and my closet and found hidden, two vokda bottle, one empty and the other half empty.  So this is her drinking more "water" it really scares me as this is a new step into drinking as she never touched hard liquor before.  I don't know what to do.  
Thanks for listen

[ibizan]

if someone wants to quit he should have the chance to do that...nitramo is talking about his wife not himself!when someone confronts u with the obvious or truth u begin w/the self pity or self deprecating statements which will keep u right where ur at.....its simple...someone who is still drinking or using drugs can't give another sound advice about their wife's alcohol problem!

[dominosarah]

Doing it your way got you here in the first place.  I rest my case.

[more0then0a0virus]

          OK, maybe i don`t have a right to talk... And I don`t want to bother anyone and I don`t want to argue, and because you have a problem with the fact i post comments, i won`t do it anymore at communities connected to addiction, if you want to. i will even delete my account as soon as I end up few discussion unrelated to this subject... Would that be OK?  
         As much as I can remember, we discussed my situation, and i`m grateful for your help, but if your plan is to f*ck me in the brain, it`s better I`m not here... I know you are trying to help, but I`m not asking for help anymore... I am going to succeed in this, but I`ll rather do it my way,,, And if i won`t succeed, I don`t care in the moment.
       And please do not give me more advices. I know all and all is up to me. I need to do it by myself.
      And feel free to judge me because i`m miserable and stupid and have this way of seeing this, because i don`t care anymore. I`ve had enough.  

[dominosarah]

Honesty is how we work around here.  If we are going to talk the talk we also have to walk the walk.  Denial is a big hurdle to get over.  Hopefully you will get there at some point.  An elderly man once told me to take the cotton out of my ears and put it in my mouth~~

[more0then0a0virus]

Because if someone has a chance/wants to quit, he should do that...
And I DON`T want to talk about it. After all, this is nitramro˙`s discussion...

[ibizan]

reduction of the alcohol is good...but have u stopped the pot use?i wonder why u keep posting to nitro giving him advice when u seem unable to face your own problems....its like focusing on anothers problem while u don't tackle yours head on....easier to give advice than 2 follow it urself!