Honesty is how we work around here. If we are going to talk the talk we also have to walk the walk. Denial is a big hurdle to get over. Hopefully you will get there at some point. An elderly man once told me to take the cotton out of my ears and put it in my mouth~~
OK, maybe i don`t have a right to talk... And I don`t want to bother anyone and I don`t want to argue, and because you have a problem with the fact i post comments, i won`t do it anymore at communities connected to addiction, if you want to. i will even delete my account as soon as I end up few discussion unrelated to this subject... Would that be OK?
As much as I can remember, we discussed my situation, and i`m grateful for your help, but if your plan is to f*ck me in the brain, it`s better I`m not here... I know you are trying to help, but I`m not asking for help anymore... I am going to succeed in this, but I`ll rather do it my way,,, And if i won`t succeed, I don`t care in the moment.
And please do not give me more advices. I know all and all is up to me. I need to do it by myself.
And feel free to judge me because i`m miserable and stupid and have this way of seeing this, because i don`t care anymore. I`ve had enough.
Doing it your way got you here in the first place. I rest my case.
if someone wants to quit he should have the chance to do that...nitramo is talking about his wife not himself!when someone confronts u with the obvious or truth u begin w/the self pity or self deprecating statements which will keep u right where ur at.....its simple...someone who is still drinking or using drugs can't give another sound advice about their wife's alcohol problem!
To:dominosarah
Thanks, I really appreciate that...
Surprisingly, I feel just fine doing it on my own. This few days were really amazing even without alcohol. That is why i didn`t want to talk to you. Too much thinking makes me depressed. And i don`t want to be depressed because then I won`t succeed in this.
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To:ibizan
i know he is talking about his wife, but he didn`t tell us what was happening in detail. And maybe she wants to get help.
i "self pity" myself because i predict your reaction, and that`s my way of defending myself.
Actually, I think i made some good points. And my personal experience can help someone to see what is like. Or my objective aspect...
I`m not saying I`m right whole the time. But I believe viewing situation from different position can only help... And I have a right to express my opinion too.
But I won`t. Because "arguing" with you is pointless, and it doesn`t help me at all. It fills me with negative energy. Your approach doesn`t suit me.
Anyways, I appreciate your honesty...
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P.S. I sent request for deleting my account. When will that happen?
I'm glad to see you've taken some steps to address ur alcohol issue....u have made some good points.....and so have we.....the BIG thing about recovery is ur fellow comrades can confront u when needed and u take it as constructive feedback and do not run......not a one of us here have done it alone...and in time u will see that will not work for u.A moderator should get back 2 u soon about deleting ur account!