help me

[beanie34]

i had a alcohol induce arguement with my girlfriend and threw her in the snow and kicked snow on her. then broke her car mirror. we no longer go out together. i have been sober for 10 weeks and go to 3-4 AA meetings a week, will she come back to me?

[beanie34]

Hi Minn

Just checking in. Been a decent week so far, approaching 11 weeks of sobriety. Feel good, the weight has been coming off, I've lost 3 belt notches
since this all started. Thats what not drinking, eating better and stress will do for you. Things get clearer by the day as long as I go to my meetings. I don't know why but the meetings are a spiritual awakening, I feel so good when I leave most meetings. I made a decision to  pull away from the ex girlfriend part of my life, it wouldn't work out at this point anyway. Its going to be hard but in the long run better for both of us. Maybe someday....who knows. I hope things are good in your life....

[minn66]

I think all families have their issues! My parents were actually health nuts and treated us well. BUT, our mother was, and is, a hoarder. Yes, just like you see on the shows. Funny how when my brothers and I get together we end up talking about it. It is good for us to let it out. So sad, but when I was a kid I almost wished my dad had a drinking problem or something because that was a whole lot more "normal" than a cluttered house! I try now to look at the good things my parents taught me, like eating healthy and exercise, rather than the bad.

I am glad you had a good time with your siblings. It does help to talk things out. Just try not to dwell on it. I know, easier said than done!

Take care,

Minn :)

[beanie34]

Hi Minn

Thanks for your comments, I really look forward to them. Went out with 3 siblings on Saturday night, had a good time. We went to dinner and had a nice chat about growing up. We grew up with an alcoholic father and that was the topic. There is 15 years between the oldest and the youngest and the oldest and youngest happened to be there. I always wondered why the oldest was more bitter towards my father, know I understand. The conversation was a real eye opener. My father also had anger issues, I was terrified growing up. He was just mean. I try to see if there is any relation with my anger and his but I just don't see it , maybe I have to dig deeper because I truely want to figure this out. I talked to my ex over the weekend, she's dealing with her own family issues right now. We talked about whats going on in our lives not about getting back together or any relationship issues. I wish I was there to help her with what she dealing with, I really miss her. My anxiety level has been quite high since yesterday afternoon and I'm trying to work through it. I swear its the hardest part of my recovery.
It really helps talking about here....

[minn66]

Hi beanie,

I am glad your meeting and counseling went well. It is a scary thing to dig deep into ourselves. We think we know everything about ourselves, that we have it figured out. We have our comfort zone and it is scary to step outside of it. It is good that you're realizing that the drinking led to the other issues, not the other way around.  Yes, external events can be triggers and used as excuses, yet they aren't the cause.

You are doing great! Keep doing what you are doing. It will take time, yet you will get there :)

Minn

[beanie34]

Went to a meeting this morning and saw my therapist right after, feel good today. This is my first time getting sober. I didn't think alcohol was the issue with my problems, I thought it was everything else because, obviuosly, I didn't want to quit, give up my FUN personality. Boy was I a fool. Tomorrow is exactly 10 weeks, things are starting to make more sense and the anxiety is decreasing. What a  roller coaster ride this has been and will be, but it will get better and I look forward to the peace and serenity that the old timers in AA promise .

[shell921]

you are to be commended for sobering up and dealing with your anger issues. it takes strength to seek help--therapy--as you are doing so good for you! I wish more people would do as you are doing. keep up your courageous fight for your self and your sobriety! YOU are worth the fight! stay strong! my best to you.