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want to quit
I am realizing that i am an alcoholic. I have done some really stupid stuff while drinking. I want to quit. I want to feel better. I just dont know how to. Any advice?
my boyfriend used to drink everyday finally i had enough.. now when he gets the urge to drink beer he will drink a pepsi.. i dont drink beer so idk why pepsi but he claims it helps with urges seems strange and im sure its different with othe people but just thought i would add this
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40 % of our clients are opiate addicts,and close to 55% alcoholics w/ a smattering of crystal meth and other drugs.The kids witness all kinds of things from their parents!that is good that u asked them...u opened up that door for them!Day 2 is a nice start!
Was going to say all in my head. Just the feeling like I want to go to the store and get one(40oz).but so far I haven't.
Thank you for your kind words. I realize that its much more than just beer. I am not feeling any witjdrawal, yet. The only thing I feel is tired at about 4:30. So made coffee, and that seemed to help. Other than that its all in my
I used to do everything after work while drinking beer. One, after another, after another. It really sneaks up on you over the years, and it's very easy to rationalize that "it's no big deal because it's just beer". I know that I did that.
It would be good if your husband could help you. If he intends to keep drinking, he could tone it down for the next 30 days or so until you get a little bit of sober time. The first few days, you feel edgy, irritable, and disconnected. The first 3-5 is the wost, and most of the withdrawal feelings are gone in 7-10 days. When I quit, I simply stayed very busy. I did not let myself get thirsty during the times that I used to drink. I also drank a lot of that "fizzy water"....stuff like LaCroix, etc. Since I was accustomed to drinking beer, I think the carbonated beverage felt good as a subtitute (and there are no calories or caffeine). Speaking of caffeine, cut your dose way down during these first few days.....it will only add to feelings of anxiousness.
In roughly a week, you can be free of physical dependence. After that, it's a matter of readjusting yourself to learn to deal with life sober. I used alcohol to numb myself and escape at the end of the day.....I enjoyed the buzz but it was an escape. Fill your time with new things, like playing with your kids, helping them with projects, or something that you enjoy.
It would be good if your husband could help you. If he intends to keep drinking, he could tone it down for the next 30 days or so until you get a little bit of sober time. The first few days, you feel edgy, irritable, and disconnected. The first 3-5 is the wost, and most of the withdrawal feelings are gone in 7-10 days. When I quit, I simply stayed very busy. I did not let myself get thirsty during the times that I used to drink. I also drank a lot of that "fizzy water"....stuff like LaCroix, etc. Since I was accustomed to drinking beer, I think the carbonated beverage felt good as a subtitute (and there are no calories or caffeine). Speaking of caffeine, cut your dose way down during these first few days.....it will only add to feelings of anxiousness.
In roughly a week, you can be free of physical dependence. After that, it's a matter of readjusting yourself to learn to deal with life sober. I used alcohol to numb myself and escape at the end of the day.....I enjoyed the buzz but it was an escape. Fill your time with new things, like playing with your kids, helping them with projects, or something that you enjoy.
It seems to me that the kids u work with also suffer from some sort of abuse from addicted parents. U mentioned crack earlier. So I'm sure these kids might be neglected or verbally assaulted, mental abuse,etc. I am a very proactive parent. I asked my daughters,just to be sure, though. I asked them if mine and daddys drinking bothered them. They both gave me a crazy look and said said no. I also read some of the posts so they would know where I was coming from.Then my 9 year old said,"I would tell you",which I replied,"I know you would",seeing as how she's very outspoken.but it might help you to know that we live in new Orleans where drinking and church practically go hand in hand. Maybe they are desensitized to it much like Italian children grow up with wine drinkers. I do welcome your replies. And by the way, I'm on day 2. The real test will be tomorrow when my husband gets home.
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it was never said that u do not love or take care of ur kids!the drinking affects the kids...they love you and are not going to outright tell u about it cuz they view that as a sign of not loving u!how do i know?cuz kids tell me so!
Look in the phone book or internet to try and get "connected" with someone in AA. Maybe they can give you a ride. If nothing else try to get to one mtg on your own with help from a friend or something. Once you are at the mtg just raise your hand and say you need a ride and ask if anybody is willing to help. There are also website with AA mtgs online. I use them from time to time however I like face to face mtgs better. Good luck!!
Do you have any advice to give as to how to stop? I have been thinking about aa but don't have a vehicle to get there.n
And just to set the record straight, my kids are taken care of. I never said I was hiding my drinking. I enjoy drinking beer while I cook, watch football, and play cards. I just want to enjoy those same things sober. The fact that I'm finding that hard to do is my harsh reality. I joined this site to find out how others faced this disease not to be badgered. I do that enough to myself as it is....
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I have worked in the same outpatient agency for 25 years...i have seen 2 generations of family members come go and some die from alcoholism.....my wish for you is that first you do something about your drinking......hopefully ur hub 2...but u have no control over that.....for i'll bet u do not want ur kids to repeat after u and ur father!U r a special person to survive the wrath of Katrina...and the aftermath.....u and ur kids deserve a peaceful life and a life with too much alcohol is not a peaceful life!
And just to set the record straight, my kids are taken care of. I usually open my first beer when I cook dinner. My boys r bathed in the early afternoon so my daughters cam shower at nite. Part of living in a trailer with a small water heater! But I came here to hear from people who can offer advice and support. And I do thank and welcome all responses , i just don't want to be on the defensive, I badger myself for my situation enough as it is...
Thank-you all for your replies. Thank u especially to punkinhead. And to answer the previous posts, no,me and my husband do not fight. We are happy and have been through a lot together,most profoundly,Hurricane katrina, and that was extreme! Hmmm, still recovering... we lost everything,down to the slab) and weren't
For some folks it is as simple as just not drinking and they go about their lives and everything is ok. I'm not like that. I needed help when I wanted to stop. Fortunately with the help of people I met in AA I have been sober for a few years now. If you are serious about stopping then don't let anything stand in your way. Just because hubby drinks doesn't mean that you have to. Easier said than done but nevertheless true. There are rehabs out there both inpatient and outpatient along with private counseling. Get the help and support you need and you'll do fine. Good luck!!!
... indeed... kids (to me) have this gift (the gift of smell i say... just like dogs... and i say this with all my love and respect i have for kids and dogs)
kids can smell (and it is not the smell of booze nor the smell of anger)... kids know when you are telling them "everything is alright" while in reality you are feeling depressed... no matter how good of an actor you are.
hey harshreality, maybe it is time to have a serious talk with your husband about the drinking thing...
kids can smell (and it is not the smell of booze nor the smell of anger)... kids know when you are telling them "everything is alright" while in reality you are feeling depressed... no matter how good of an actor you are.
hey harshreality, maybe it is time to have a serious talk with your husband about the drinking thing...
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Ah kids KNOW! u think their sleeping!what about empty beer cans?u and hub ever get in arguments after drinking?ppl THINK the kids are asleep.....denial there...they are in their rooms LISTENING!how do i know this?cuz the kids tell me these things!dayjob is substance abuse counselor!i been sober/clean myself for 27 years.I had a 4 yr.old boy tell me his mom had smoked crack the nite b4 when she told me it had been 3 weeks!and yes...history of alcoholism in family..it does run in families!i;ll have a 20 year old come in and say ok i know u know my dad.....and my uncle....and my cousin and my other bro..........!!!!!
I have 4 kids. My stepdaughter is 14, my daughter is 9 and my 2 boys are 2 & 3. I usually start drinking beer around 5 or 5:30 and don't stop until 9 or 9:30.I don't drink during the day and they are asleep by the time I feel buzzed but that's not the point. I still know the affects. My father is an alcoholic.
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oh boy u got double jeopardy going!how old are ur kids?are u under the influence taking care of them?being financially dependent on a drinking man and being a drinking mom is rough,but the effects of this on children are devastating..i can tell u that!
.He has no interest in quitting so there will always be beer in the frige. I guess I'm stressing about it so much I want one now.
Thanx for your reply. My husband brings it home when he gets off work. I am a stay at home mom and hardly ever get out of the house. By the time 5o clock rolls around we are both ready to relax for the evening.
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