help :(

[amy_16]

Hey I'm so stressed because whenever I'm shy or affraid or even angry, my hands and legs(thighs) start to shake, and my voice change. I hate when it happens eventhough I took B-complex ang magnesium for a month and nothing changed or even lessen. What should I do to stop it??

[ash009]

thinking too much is the root cause of most problem,,once u change ur attitude u can change urself,,B-complex and magnesium wont help u much in this case..its the mental power u have to change..
try to do things that gives u mental happiness and free mind power..

tc and enjoy life

[amy_16]

i guess my problem is that i think too much, let's hope i stop it and enjoy my life.. thank you

[amy_16]

Thanks a lot for your advice, it helped me to think better and I'll do my best with facing my fears that are stubborn enough to make me shake even when I think about the situation!
I know it will be a long road and a difficult one.. I'm only hoping for the best.

[Jerry_NJ]

If your problem is you are "too" shy when dealing with one or more people, I suggest is isn't a drug that you need.  Rather you need help in facing this shyness and beating it down.

This can/must be started in small steps.  Pick something simple, like one situation that doesn't involve lots of people like public speaking, and condition yourself to deal with it.  A good one would be talking with one other person who makes you nervous or otherwise troubled.  Figure out some casual subject and open it with them... it could even be a compliment. That set the stage in your favor.  Then while dealing with this situation go in convinced that if you make a "mistake" it is NO BIG DEAL, all people make mistakes, just note it (silently or verbally if necessary) and go forward.  

I may have missed your question/request... but the advice may be of some use.  I can say it is something I used more than once in past years whenI was confronted with public responsibilities that were enough to cause "stage fright"... for some you don't have to be on the "stage" to be frightened, but it is all the same problem, making yourself strong enough to survive a mistake - don't overemphasize the importance of a mistake.  That's how we make fewer mistakes, not more mistakes.

All fears I have had, high bridges, flying and public speaking were all conquered by facing them and beating them by doing them as needed. I am an old guy now, so I have nothing to fear, but I became a million miler on United Airlines in my battle against the fear of flying.  I had to beat it or get a different job... I liked my job and it paid well, so I beat the fear.