anxiety

[berklygrl]

Okay my moms leaving in April for her 25th anniverary on a cruiz. the last time she left for two days i woke up and had really bad anxiety and panicked . i dont know what to do when she leaves please help!

[berklygrl]

yeah, sometimes they make it a lot worse.

[Hate_panic_attacks]

Yeah I'm having anxiety right now :/ Heh. If you got a relationship then bring that girl over :o They can distract you so much..... but sometimes they make it worse ://///

[berklygrl]

haha, yes it did help. You know everyone tells me it will pass and i'm not alone on this one. maybe i should start listening to other people. i asume of course i will be okay its just gonna be hard. :/

[boognell]

I know how you feel, when I was 17 I couldn't stand if my mom wasn't there all the time. It wasn't like I clung that badly or anything, I thought I could come and go as I wished. On the very few times she wasn't there overnight it seemed like the world was not on it's axis. But as I got older these feelings went away. I had a series of apartments with a series of friends and had a great time. Every so often, though, that little girl would rise up, and I 'd found myself going to my Mom's no matter what time of day or night. Usually, it was when my roommates had several people over that I wasn't acquainted with; I would feel vi=ulnerable, wondering how well my friends knew them. And then I'd throw some clothes in a bag and off I'd go. And she always made me feel better. Still does. Her birthday was 12/16, she is a very cool 88 years old. She does have health problems that are kind of serious but she never complains, just is happy to see me and my sisters. I don't know if my rambling on helped you, but at least you have your brother, right?

[berklygrl]

17. and my brother will sometimes be there, other then that no.

[berklygrl]

yeah she knows about my anxiety. and im seeing a counselor and soon a psychiatrist. I think were almost "too close" but idk what to do is besides suffer for the whole week. and ive been thinking lately maybe its because there wont be an adult in the home only my older brother . maybe thats why because if my grandparents stayed with us it might be okay but im unsure. but they cant because they live in indiana.

[onebalance]

Talk with her about your anxiety. Discuss what may be causing it. My guess if its linked with her leaving for a short time, it is a form of separation anxiety. What scares you about her being gone? Is it worth it to worry for these reasons? Will your apprehension of unknown circumstances REALLY change anything that might happen while she is gone?

I think this has something to do with you worrying about things that are out of your control or realm of knowledge. Learn to trust that things are the way they are, and they will happen as they must. There is no reason to worry about how everything happens and why.