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HIV phobia
alright well i had unprotected oral sex. Everybody in the HIV forum said was extremely unlikely and pretty much impossible to get HIV through this manner and they said it was not necessary to get tested. I got tested anyway to cure my fear on the date in which i was supposed to after the exposure. it was a negative ( thank god). So low risk exposure + a negative HIV test = a happy me for a week. After that week, i started pulling hairs and my anxiety came back. I caught myself saying " what if" and thinking over all these reasons why it may have been a false negative and i rally have HIV. I'm only 16 years old and cannot go a day without thinking im going to die. Everybody on the HIV forum told me that my fears are completely unwarranted and to post here because i definitely dont have HIV. I seriously need help but i am NOT talking to my parents about this. Any suggestions please? Its ruining my life.. thanks.
From now on, just come to us. There are plenty of folks here who know about HIV AND the anxiety that comes with it. If there is something we DON'T know, TOGETHER we will all find the answer for you.
Stay safe, OK?
Peace
Greenlydia
Stay safe, OK?
Peace
Greenlydia
lol yea this is my second account (shh!) because i excessively posted on the HIV forums about a "no risk situation" and " conclusive result". They can be very harsh to people who post with anxiety. but thank you
That's cool, Sweetie. I can understand your fear and your frustration. And don't worry about jumping down my throat.......far scarier people than you have TRIED that.
I hope, between caveman and myself, that we've given you some reassurance, and some options, to deal with your HIV scare and any anxiety that you may be dealing with.
I personally find the folks on the HIV forum to be rather nasty and not terribly understanding...........especially concerning the anxiety that comes with the fear of having somehow contracted HIV. They will ban you there if you post too often, three times I think is their limit. The Anxiety Forum never will.
If you still have fears, questions or concerns, please write us as much as you need. We'll help you get through this.
You're gonna be fine, I promise.
Peace
Greenlyida
I hope, between caveman and myself, that we've given you some reassurance, and some options, to deal with your HIV scare and any anxiety that you may be dealing with.
I personally find the folks on the HIV forum to be rather nasty and not terribly understanding...........especially concerning the anxiety that comes with the fear of having somehow contracted HIV. They will ban you there if you post too often, three times I think is their limit. The Anxiety Forum never will.
If you still have fears, questions or concerns, please write us as much as you need. We'll help you get through this.
You're gonna be fine, I promise.
Peace
Greenlyida
lol your right. sorry for jumping down your throat there. i get really touchy on the subject at night before i go to be for some reason. you were only trying to help. sorry lol
First off, YOU are the one who brought up the false negative issue. NOT me! Read your own bloody post again! I was trying to give you reassurance that since YOU were freaking out about it being a false negative, a SECOND test would definitely alleviate your worry. Sorry that I offered a viable option for you to deal with your anxiety! If you lose any sleep, it won't be from anything I wrote.........you were doing that all on your own.
That you feel I don't know how to talk to people with anxiety on a touchy subject is your opinion (and apparently cavemans) and you're both welcome to think whatever the hell you want. Read my reply again, you'll hopefully see, THIS TIME, that I was saying you did NOT have HIV and that a second test would also prove that, making the second test unnecessary.
I said that false negatives are possible. I SAID THAT YOURS WAS NOT. I said that IF you got tested again, which would be one way to alleviate your fears, that the chances of two false negatives would be astronomical. YOU are the ONLY one here who thinks your first test might have been a false negative. I did not contradict myself at all.
I'm debating with a kid who thinks getting their hands on some street benzos would make them happier, do better in school, and make more friends. I'll hope you meant that as a joke. Since you consider me to be an incompetent *******, at least listen to your new friend caveman and get your drugs from a doctor. And do it by telling him the truth.
That you feel I don't know how to talk to people with anxiety on a touchy subject is your opinion (and apparently cavemans) and you're both welcome to think whatever the hell you want. Read my reply again, you'll hopefully see, THIS TIME, that I was saying you did NOT have HIV and that a second test would also prove that, making the second test unnecessary.
I said that false negatives are possible. I SAID THAT YOURS WAS NOT. I said that IF you got tested again, which would be one way to alleviate your fears, that the chances of two false negatives would be astronomical. YOU are the ONLY one here who thinks your first test might have been a false negative. I did not contradict myself at all.
I'm debating with a kid who thinks getting their hands on some street benzos would make them happier, do better in school, and make more friends. I'll hope you meant that as a joke. Since you consider me to be an incompetent *******, at least listen to your new friend caveman and get your drugs from a doctor. And do it by telling him the truth.
lol i have had a lot more risky encounters than that and I dont have HIV little man. Plus I dont even think its possible to get HIV getting a blow.
Good get to the doctor and try not to put yourself in situations that are going to make you worry like this anymore. Good Luck and let me know what your doctor says. I have to get to bed so I will talk to you soon.
yea ill get to the doctor. Funny thing is Greenchlamydia contradicted himself by saying the people in the HIV forum know what theyre talking about then saying a false negative is possible in my situation. hmmm
yeah I know that was ****** up anyway don't worry about it you don't have it HIV. Just get yourself to the doctor and talked to your doctor about getting on some meds.
greenlydia doesn't know how to talk to people with anxiety on a touchy subject. "While it IS possible to come up with a false negative, (which you DID NOT) the chances of coming up with TWO would be astronomical, so you really have to stop freaking out and accept that you are HIV negative." thats gonna cost me a night of sleeping. just saying its possible is all it takes to set me off
If you go to a general practioner which would be your normal run of the mill doctor not a specialist he can diagnos and prescibe for anxiety if he thinks it's nessecary.
lol yea i know i learned a valuable lesson, But now u got me worrying that it may be false negative and that have to go through the anxiety of getting tested again
I would accept what the folks on the HIV forum told you and get on with your life.
I would advise you to talk with your doctor again. If his/her words can't alleviate your fears, get yourself tested ONE more time. While it IS possible to come up with a false negative, (which you DID NOT) the chances of coming up with TWO would be astronomical, so you really have to stop freaking out and accept that you are HIV negative.
If, after the second test, which will also be negative, you STILL persist with the "what if's," then it's time to get into therapy. It will NOT be time to repost to the HIV forum or this one either. The line must be drawn somewhere and two negative tests is it. I do hope you've learned your lesson regarding safe sex. This will sound very harsh but if you're not going to practice it, then find another place to cry about it.
Peace
Greenlydia
I would advise you to talk with your doctor again. If his/her words can't alleviate your fears, get yourself tested ONE more time. While it IS possible to come up with a false negative, (which you DID NOT) the chances of coming up with TWO would be astronomical, so you really have to stop freaking out and accept that you are HIV negative.
If, after the second test, which will also be negative, you STILL persist with the "what if's," then it's time to get into therapy. It will NOT be time to repost to the HIV forum or this one either. The line must be drawn somewhere and two negative tests is it. I do hope you've learned your lesson regarding safe sex. This will sound very harsh but if you're not going to practice it, then find another place to cry about it.
Peace
Greenlydia
The truth I would start there and ask them to take you to the doctor that you feel that it is serious and you need to get help. try to get angry and go into the typical teenager/parents arguements. If that doesn't work fake a sore throat it's winter at least it will get you to a doctor. Then apologize for lying to your parents but you felt it was nessecary to get help
Yea anxiety runs in my family . i tried telling my parents about my social anxiety and they basically told me " everybody gets like that sometimes". My little brother has anxiety and has medication but they simply dont see mine as serious when i strongly believe it is. You have any suggestions on how to get to my parents to make a doctors appt? thanks again.
Yeah that sounds bad please don't do that talk to your parents and try to get a doctors appt. and get a prescribtion. Xanax can be very addictive and alot of anti-depressents can send people your age into a deeper depression or make you think thoughts you would not normally think. So please go to a doctor, and if you aren't comfortable about talking to your parents about it try making up a different excuse to see the doctor.
yea its not as bad as some people's on here without a doubt. But i would do better in school, make more friends, and live happier maybe if i can just get some valium or xanax. i was thinking of buying some off the street ( sounds bad) but i think the positives outweigh the negatives.
Well your here talking to us and I know it's just a computer and you can't actually see us, but I think even your social anxiety isn't to bad. Besides kids in school can be cruel to everybody so look at it like there opinons of you don't matter because they don't. The only person that can bring you down is you.
yea thanks for the support man. We're definitely too young for worrying about dying. I dont know about you but deep down inside i know that i'm alright and im overreacting. It comes out when im in school especially because i also have social anxiety. it really ***** i feel you.
First of all trust the test your fine.Secondly trust the people on the HIV forum I'm sure they have a pretty good idea of what there talking about. Thinking that your going to die everyday is hard I know I do it also but when it's our time it's our time. Your young and your healthy so just go out and live life and be happy, thats what I am trying to do. I am only 28 so I am hoping God will bless me with a long healthy life. Also I would probably hold off on any kind of sex until you know that person inside and out so you don't worry like you are now. Good Luck keep us posted.
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