I have a really big feat of my mum dying.

[Becksx]

Hi. I am 18 years old and i live at home with my parents. My mum is only 45 and she is healthy, I get really worried about my mum one day passing away, i can't imagine not seeing her again or hearing her voice again. I am really close to my mum and i can't picture my life without her. My dad got really ill yesterday and was diagnosed with meningitis. Fortunately he survived and is well and healthy again. I panic about my mum getting ill or something tragic happening to her. I don't know how to get rid of these thoughts and i don't know what i can do to help myself. It sounds crazy that I feel like this and it almost happens all the time. Can somebody give me any advice? Thank you.

[Becksx]

Thank you for your comments, I will sit down with my mum and speak to her about my anxious feelings. I'm glad that i'm not the only one who feels like this. :)

[4Maddie44]

I am so glad you dad is all right now.  That was a big worry for you.  

I am at the other end of the scale, I am 73 years old, and I have a son and daughter.  Just cherish your Mum every day.  It is not crazy to worry about the time she will not be here, just let her know how much you love her.  I am thankful I have children and grandchildren who love me.  That is the most important thing to me.  I don't know how you will get rid of the fears, as it is understandable, but do not let them take over your life.  Be in the here and now.  Try not to worry about the future.  Life is too short to worry about what will happen years from now.  

You have a great relationship with your parents.  You are young, and you are worrying too much about what will happen years, and years from now.  

[DarkVixen39]

I use to having the same worry about my dad....it started my first panic attack..I had a dream he died and woke up with a panic attack...it does help to talk to ur mom about it...not to worry u r very young and she will most likely be around for quite awhile...my first panic about my dad I was 10 years old...im almost 40 now and my dad is still going strong and healthy!

[butterfly_2014]

Bless you becksx :) I imagine things like this with my mum and its actually turns my stomach. I went through a really tough time where I thought my life was going to end. My mum got me through it and I know that if she wasn't there, I might not have made it through. Since then I just cant imagine life without her. Now in your case it sounds like the anxiety is not going to stop on its own or pass any time soon without some help. Go to your Dr to talk about some temporary medication and maybe a referral for a physiologist. we all have worried but sometimes they can spin around and around in out head and that part is not normal. There are a lot of people out there who know what you are experiencing so don't feel alone. Appreciate everyday with your family and I hope soon you will start to enjoy it and stop worrying so much.

[anxiety860]

I had this fear when I was young. Probably 12. I talked to my mom about it and it honestly made me feel better.  Enjoy time with your loved ones while they are here and don't worry about the "what ifs". I honestly believe that the end of life is the begining of our journey into eternity.  Religion has helped me with my anxiety. (Not trying to force that on you) but I would suggest talking to your mom for starts