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are all therapists
There to judge you, or should they help you with what YOU want to accomplish. Should they always sit there and write everything down, or should they be able to just listen sometimes. Do they really care, or are they there to put you down , break you, and get everything out that they can. I feel like after therapy i should come out happy, I go home and cry?
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There are good and bad therapists but most are good and truly care and want to help. It's imperative that they get as much as they can out of you so they can get to the root of your problem. While doing this we are forced to re-live events that are painful for us and we can leave therapy that day feeling worse than when we went in. I always tell people if while in therapy you start to get angry aver what they are asking or wanting to discuss...you know they're getting close to the issues at hand. After some time, things should get easier as you work through each issue one by one. Your visits should become easier and you should be leaving with a better understanding of things in your life and how to cope better. I know it can be very frustrating and a long process, but it's well worth it. But a therapist should never "put you down" or make you feel bad about yourself, and if one does...you may want to look for another. I hope this helps, and know we understand and are always here for you.
Hey girl, It should be a no judgement zone, and i don't want to put all therapist into one category they are all different and offer different modalities, whats most important is that you find the therapist that works for you and that you can trust and be honest with. I am currently seeing my therapist once a week and still struggling with addiction, I'm only 6 months clean and therapy is painful, as we are getting to the "root" of the problem. Bringing up some of lifes dramatic events is so draining and yes i leave there crying at times and sometimes i walk out of there feeling so empowered. So its a process, and it takes time, but once you find the right therapist for you, you can then begin to heal, and with healing comes hurt and pain, but in the end it will all be worth it. Please do not let anyone especially your therpist put you down or make you feel uncomfortable. It is a difficult job for the therapist as we go in there office feeling so vulnerable and they have to watch every word they say so we don't break, but honestly, in general they really do care and want nothing more than to make you feel better.
I agree with mammo.
Therapy isn't always easy. Therapists have the job of sometimes telling their pts things that are hard for them to hear. Sometimes people need pushed a little, but there is a difference between being pushed and being put down. It's hard sometimes, especially when we're vulnerable, to differentiate between the two and to not take things personally.
Bottom line is, after you've given it a fair shake, if you still aren't feeling comfortable with your therapist, or you feel he/she isn't a good "fit", then it may be time to find a new one.
Therapy isn't always easy. Therapists have the job of sometimes telling their pts things that are hard for them to hear. Sometimes people need pushed a little, but there is a difference between being pushed and being put down. It's hard sometimes, especially when we're vulnerable, to differentiate between the two and to not take things personally.
Bottom line is, after you've given it a fair shake, if you still aren't feeling comfortable with your therapist, or you feel he/she isn't a good "fit", then it may be time to find a new one.
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