Paxil

[Lindee3250]

My daughter is thirty seven years old. She is addicted to Paxil for depression and anxiety for two years.  She was in a abusive marriage. Her husband is an functional alcoholic. He mentally, verbally abusive her and her two small children. She will be divorced from him January 8 2009.  Her behavior is out of control. She doesn't want to get off of the medicine slowly. She feels that she needs it. She imagines that she is other peoples personality. She claims that I beat her as a child. That never happened!  Everyone that knows her her whole life. knows that it's not true. She came from a loving home. I was divorced from her birth father. When she was two years old.He did not see her or paid support. I remarried, her step father loved her as his own and gave her a good life. She considered him her father. Her husband every change he could told her that her own father never loved her or wanted her.My daughter is very sensitive  about that matter and hurt her very much. When she started the divorced, she stated the Paxil. She wanted full custody of her children. And move on the other side of the city. She wanted a fresh start for her and her children. We help her hire a lawyer for the divorce and custody of the children. Everything the lawyers ask her to do for the  divorce. She did the opposite failed to cooperate with the lawyer.Now she wants to give  full custody of the children to her husband. She feels that she can't handle them. She is also drinking with this medicine.And is a interracial relationship. Both thing she never considered before. She acts like she is a teenager. She barely  hold down a job. And sleeps all day. She wants to party  all night. She went to a thirty seven year old loving and caring Mother. To a juvenile delinquent. Everyone that knows  her and loves her. Can not believe that this is the same women.She has a different personality. I want her to get help but she refused to.As her Mother and a Grandmother. I am trying to save my family. What can I do to help her? Her physician said, that he can not discuss her case with me. Unless she approves And she won't. She seeks counseling for awhile and didn't want to hear what the Doctor had to say. My family had an intervention with her. It was unsuccessfully. What is my next step to help her.
Concerned Mother

[RubyWitch]

My humble advice would be to hire a lawyer and let him/her take on this horrible burden for you legally. MrGreen wisely pointed out that at her age, you have no say in her life and obviously no control...........she has been through some rough times, but her personality change is rather frightening. My one and only concern at this point would be for the grandkids. I agree with MrGreen that you should go after custody of them until your daughter gets her act together. I think you have a very excellent chance of winning custody, as both she and her ex sound like totally unfit parents. Enough lives have been ruined here already, let's worry about those kids first. Maybe once your daughter realizes what she has lost, it may bring her around. I am so sorry you are having this problem in your life. It must be very difficult and sad, such a helpless feeling. I really think getting the kids away from possible physical harm and without a doubt, emotional abuse, should be your first priority. They need love and caring and stability to begin to undo what has already been done to them.
Again as MrGreen said, sometimes we must be cruel to be kind. It's a sad truth.
Please let us know how things are going, OK? Post as often as you need. We will always be here to listen.
Peace
Greenlydia    

[MrGreen]

What exactly can we do for people who don't want to do anything for themselves? That is the first problem to try and get around. Making her see that she has problems. At her age I don't think there is anything you can do legally. Unless you were to try and adopt your own grandkids. Stating that she was an unfit mother and her husband a drunk, abusive father. This might open her eyes at least. No doubt she has turned her back on your love. But you love her and your grandkids too and I would do what I thought best for them. You daughter mightn't want this. But at times we have to be cruel to be kind. I would challenge her as a mother. In a court of law. Show her that you are not giving up on the kids. Once you have your day in court you can say things and she will have to listen. About her problems. About your love for her. Wanting to help her out. Seriously I can't see any other direction you can take it and make an impact. Because she is old enough to do as she wants. That seems to be what she is doing. Probably not the answer you expected to read on this forum. Not medical in any sort of way. Just a common sense approach.