Please, I need to figure out how I can make my new marriage survive. My husband likes to put me down when we are alone, and he likes to get a little rough too. He has a short fuse and is very impatient. I had problems with my self esteem before and it is even worse now. I cry alot because after a string of mean disrespectful things that he says, when he finishes with a light slap on my cheek. I can't help but cry.
I hurt him in the past severely and I know that is why he wants to and enjoys hurting me today. But I truly wish he could forgive me already because he is only adding onto the trauma I already had before I met him. And I think one day I will just explode again and nobody would be there to pick up the pieces.
I don't really have a family to go back to if we end it.
I love my husband dearly. He has many positive qualities but I can't look at him in the same light anymore. I can't feel the same with him anymore either. He's always mad and I'm always feeling pathetic. I don't want to play the victim because I know I have been making mistakes, but instead of him bullying me when he does we could have so many more nice moments and positive interactions together. I have told him all of this, but he just keeps hurting me. And I keep struggling with my judgment.
What can I do to break this toxic cycle. Any advice is appreciated. Thank