Thoughts and dreams of Death...

[HockeyShark]

In my tendancy to overthink and dwell on things, and with the recent death of my aunt, last years death of my mother, a friend with Cancer, and my own health issues, I am now having constant thoughts of death, and horrible nightmares.

It almost seems to be working itself into a series of obsessive thoughts or a phobia. So when i have panic attacks, or other health issues all I can think about is dying.

I get no escape in my sleep. Nightmares are horrible. Being chased, dying, or running for my life. Waking exausted..

Anyone- Please help?

[MrGreen]

There is a great fable ( story ) of a woman who was walking through Larsa and her young baby died in her arms. She began crying and banging on every door asking the locals for help. Still holding the now limp baby in her arms. Finally she came upon a man who offered to help her. He agreed to bring her baby back to life if she could got one grain of rice from a house that had never experienced death before. She knocked on every door and got the same answer time and time again. Someone had lost a family member in each house. Be it a mother or father or brother or sister. It was only then that she stopped and copped on to what the man was trying to tell her. Everybody has experienced death at some level or another. It comes with life. To accept it is the best sollution. We mourn when people die. But how many let those people go? How many wish they were still alive? We should be able to tell a dead person that we loved them so much, they were great friends in life, but we now accept that they are dead.  That does not mean we will forget them. It just means we are letting them move on in the afterlife.

[betu_b]

My Thoughts for handling this situation is

1) Have your body checkup completly to make sure you dont have any health issue
2) if that appears to be normal , than focus on how to fight with fear of death
3) Start making small small targets so that you can divert your mind to achieve those , like if you are a professional then do some small courses , if you are programmer then develop some small website.and general tasks could be to have good flowers for your garden , or get your home painted like that.
4) have friends , and discuss with them what you are thinking , as if you leave alone you will have such thoughts for sure.
5) Take deep breath when you have such thoughts and get out from that location wherever you are.

Hope this helps

[juliemarie777]

I don't know if you are a believer or not, but I am going to be bold in my response to you and hope somehow to encourage you.
Do you pray? I suffer from anxiety, and have for years. But, I will say that since I have been praying and accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior,12 years ago, my anxiety has reduced  verrrry much and I have a peace I have never known.
I read the Bible and listen to worship music alot and especially if I am anxious and before bed... It helps... Or actually HE helps. My faith in God has changed my life and I take it day by day, it says in the bible...I look up scripyure pretaining to anxiety, fear, hope and joy, just to mention a few, you get the jist. Here is one that came to me as I read your post.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Phillippians 4:6

[MrGreen]

You are dreaming as you are because death is your main focus of attention. It is by now deep at a subconscious level. Just my own opinion. We tend to let certain things get that deep and take over our lives. When we sleep we dream of certain things. Our fears would be part of our dreams. Because they are buried in there so deeply. Your life is not as you want it to be. So you want to run from it. Obvious dream to have. Nothing to fear in that. That is just a want for a sollution to your situation.
How to overcome the fear surrounding death is the part we have to figure out. Yes, We all have to die some day. We have no choice in that matter. Acceptance of this fact might help a bit. But for now use some logical thoughts. Next time you are feeling anyway off ask yourself could you really die from this? The answer should be no if thinking in a logical way. Nobody has ever died from a panic attack. Pure fact. Worth remembering. So you can tell yourself that. No matter how bad you might feel. Those feelings will always pass. You'll be still alive too.

[HockeyShark]

I try and think good things, but the nightmares are horrible. I feel like I can't even escape these thoughts when i sleep.

[ativan]

Hi there, I know how you feel as I also have a fear of death and I get the dreadful thoughts, I dont get the nightmares but when I wake its the first thing on my mind, the only thing I can say to you is why worry nobody has told you that your going to die so enjoy that day, thats what my sister told me to do and it does work for me. I have a fear of that C word but as of today nobody is going to tell me I have it so I get through today, do it one day at a time,
all the best,
janis.