Hey Doc,
My boyfriend (white male 45 years old) has these mood swings that are becoming worse. He has had a couple of deployments to Afghanistan, and his job is pretty stressful. But we have only been dating for a year and a half so I don't know how long this has been going on. When he is down, he will drink (often to excess) then come back and try and belittle me or start verbal altercations. He seems to feel inadequate, and much of his tone is very passive aggressive. When he is up, he has very strange ideas for businesses etc. In January I finally got him to go see his primary medical doctor and he prescribed Lexpro (sp?). My boyfriend said it has helped to clear up some of his thinking. And yes it has tapered some of those "highs", but the lows seem to continue getting lower. I know he says he has feelings of anxiety and that his life feels out of control sometimes. I've asked him to stop drinking, but I'll be honest that isn't about to happen anytime soon. He seems open to getting different drugs to help him out, but I'm having a hard time getting him to see a psychiatrist who might be able to give him the right kinds of meds.
I had a boss many many years ago when I was working a summer job, that would just snap. When I went back for my last summer at the place, he was completely changed. The secretary told me that he was on meds (prozac???), and that apparently years of stress had created a chemical imbalance and that was common in males in demanding jobs. Maybe this is the case for my boyfriend?
When he is lucid and we are communicating well, I can sometimes get through to him. I'm in no danger, so don't worry about that. I just want him to get better. He will talk to his primary care physician, so are there any other hints or sources of information you can help me get to the bottom line on this? I think if I can get him on the right stuff, he might come around to get additional counseling that would really help him along.