oh boy:(

[jackiefoxybrown]

Now pardon me if I'm posting on the wrong forum,but this is my 1st time on this website & its very busy and hard to navigate.onece I get the hang of it ill be alright. Now, I've always suffered from deppression & extreme shyness. But it was never anxiety. I'm a very unusual case. I'm 27 & never had a bf and I only have one friend whose m best friend. About three yrs ago I met a man who I liked very much. Being that he was my 1st male freind?,remind you I had a extreme crush on this person I became very attached.about 6 mths later he moved abruptly w/o telling me a thing.that hurt my feelings very much,that's when my depression darkened. I would have these crying spells,I isolated myself from family and I went from 130 pounds to 149 pounds in a 3 mths span. Among losing what I considered a frreindship that I valued,I was searching for a job with no sucess,this in turn made me feel worse. I started dating and failed miserably. One day it was very normal, I woke up and soon after breakfast I felt so hot,my stomach became upset,my heart started beating uncontrollbly,it basically felt like the walls were closing in on me.I knew what I feeling was not normal so I went to the emergancy room.long story short I could not sleep for three days straight,could not eat...it took me about 2 weeks to feel normal. And ever since then I've suffered from anxiety. I think I'm borderline hypochondriac,. As of late I've been having these horrible crying spells..I just been really depressed about how I've been on this frantic search to find my soulmate and 3 years later I'm still single...and very lonely..I cry myself to sleep cuz I worry I might die alone...and I'm afraid that this might cause me to have anoother nervous breakdown.I don't think I will be able to handle getting sick again..id rather die...do anybody know that if u suffered from 1 nervous breakdown are u prone 2 suffering from another nervouse breakdown and if so how do I prevent it?

[Life360_Dave]

Loneless can be a terrible thing and with so many people around wondering why you cant get one would lead to depression. But even if you get one others things come up and a messed up mate can lead to much worse things. Just take your time and the right person will come along. Your probably very special and finding that special person might take time. Do you have a pet as love from an animal can cause life changing perspectives.

[Gulfstream2]

Hi Jackie,

I would say that these nervous episodes and potential hypochondria are a result from what you have described, the hypochondria may have stemmed from you being scared of the symptoms that the anxiety has brought about.

What I can say about anxiety is that it is quite remarkable because of its extraordinary list of symptoms but it all is just mental in nature, nothing physical.

You say you are worried that one nervous breakdown may lead to another, and I would say both yes and no. It could possibly lead to another if you continue to torment yourself with this kind of thinking, which is difficult to break for some, but it can be and will be stopped but it comes down to you making the commitment to do so and sticking with it.

On the other hand, I would suggest that you either get in touch with a psychiatrist and see what he or she suggests for you in terms of therapy to help you get over your current dilemma. Ever hear of cognitive behavioural therapy? You may want to look into it. There are even books out there about it that could be of great help to you.

Another thing is, do you know how much diet affects your emotions and mental well-being? It has a tremendous effect. Make sure you are getting proper nutrition and avoiding any foods and drink that may make you proneto anxiety or depression. You would be surprised how some foods are actually depressogenic and anxiety-provoking.

Watch out for caffeine and sugar, and alcohol. Alcohol can cause anxiety to become horrible if you get dependent on it. Lack of exercise has a large impact as well, have you read any of the studies on exercise and mental health? The correlations speak for themselves.

I hope you feel better, and let us know about how you are feeling and if you need further help. I wish you the very best.