My son, nearly three, refuses to use utensils for eating and asks me to feed him -- so he eats with his hands and refuses anything that would require a fork or spoon. He also likes to direct me in the making of playdoh creations, asks me to draw pictures according to his direction, etc. Although he is capable of taking off his pants or shoes and socks when uncomfortalbe, he doesn't show any interest in dressing or undressing himself. He is also very resistant to toilet training. I had a second child three months ago, so I'm trying not to pressure him. In addition to this resistance to doing things for himself, I've lately seen a major increase in whining and trantrums, putting things in his mouth, and being generally destructive -- although these things I attribute to the new sibling. He's not in school yet, just home with me, so it's hard to gage his social development, though he is very slow to warm up to new people. Should I be having him evaluated for Aspergers (I have a nephew with it)? I should add that he is incredibly imaginative and verbal, tells long stories, makes believe in great detail, is affectionate and funny. But when he started hitting himself during a tantrum tonight I became more worried. When excited (usually about a story he's making up) he runs all around and flaps his hands. It's cute but is it normal?