Hi,
I need some serious help fpr my daughter. I am scared to take her to a doctor as I am afraid the might put her away. I think she is bipolar.
It all happened from Dec 2010 - March 2011. During this time she had a temporary role. She was 18 at the time & she told me an older guy at her job started to like her. He was 37. I told hes too old for her & wants more things for you than you do. She told me she didnt want to have sex till she was married. But she stuck up for him & kept saying 'He wont do that, he knows what he's doing.' He asked her to go for a drink with the people from work. But when she got there it was just them. He aslo asked her to the movies but me & my husband said no & she got really angry about it. After her job she stayed with her friend for two weeks. When she came home she woke me up at 2am & said 'mum, I think I lost my virginity to the man at work.'
Thats when our nightmare started.
Ever since then she has been texting him calling him a rapist, a p e d o p h i l e. I told you no sex. She told all of his friends as she knew two of them through other people. He then called her a b i t c h & threatened her that he was going to talk to me & my husband if she continues to text him. I dont want him at my house & he should respect that right? I ended up calling him & said 'my daughter asked you will she still be a virgin if you that cause I havent done this & I don't know.' He replied 'Yes, she did ask but she asked me what I believed & to me its not. So when I said it was fine, she said ok so I proceeded.'
Now a few months later we were away overseas & she did this again with someone she knew for an hour. She told me she was scared to say no.
After this ordeal she went psycho. She kept having screaming fits, yelling, trying to cut herself & said she feels like someones nails are digging into her brain & it comes & goes. She doesnt shower, brush her teeth & is obssessed with the internet. She googled 'am i still a virgin if i got fingered & there was blood?' Everyone told her that she still is but then she says but Mary never got fingered & thats what lesbians do.
I even told her a little about what happened to me when I was younger. I kepp saying you were a 2 I was an 8. I told her its nothing, he was just playing & she said 'but my husband wouldve done that.' also 'he took my purity away from me.' Ive tried to tell her the finger cant go all the way in, its only up to the first knuckle under the nail. Shes been to three counsellors, they tell her she is one but she wont listen either. She keeps saying I dont feel normal without my innosence. I feel left in half & dont know how to get back to normal again.
One night she was googling again, her older sister caught her & took her laptop from her & put a password on it. She went crazy, she started screaming at my other daughter, my husband tried to calm her down & she said 'I want my laptop back, I paid for it, its mine, she has no right to do that.' Then we said 'you need to stop googling.' & she ended up hitting her dad & pulled his necklace off him. This was while we were overseas. We rented a house nextdoor to my cousin & she could hear what was going on. Her cousins are now scared of her & they are two years older than her.
I dont know what to do. Before this happened she was a lovely girl. Always polite, caring, all the younger kids liked her aswell as the older generation.
Now she justs sits there, her face is lifeless & she stares into space & doesnt talk to anyone. I sleep with her in her room cause she writes letters saying she wants to kill him & torture him with a taser. She wrote she wants to smash his car & put a lighted match in his room while hes sleeping.
We came back home in January this year & still no change. Weve had over 400 days of hell.
I dont know what to do but I am scared that someone will put her away.