I had one node positive along with stage III cancer. And I'm with you, the objective now is to live to see my girls graduate, get married and have their own babies. And that's a very long way away. My oldest is also 3 1/2 like yours!
I'll put you on my prayer list that all comes to your advantage this Friday. Hopefully you will have good news and can go for baby number 2. Are you having reconstruction done? I went almost 2 years without a boob, due to the circumstances. You'll probably have to do chemo, hopefully it won't be so bad.
If you need/want more advice or just to talk, holler at me.
Lisa
I am going through the identical problem and was feeling very isolated. But reading your storey, I completely understand see what the doctors said to me.
My heading is 'Breast calcium and lymph nodes' just above yours.
Thanks for the reply, i am very nervous what will be the outcome of the mastectomy on Friday, I'm worried about if my lymph nodes has also cancer.
My objective now is to live longer and acceptance about the cancer that I have.
Jade
What are your tumor markers? If ER/PR+, then I would think that pregnancy would not be advisable until after your 5 years of tamoxifen since a pregnancy would ever increase your estrogen production. And the estrogen is what the tumor is feeding off of. However, if you are not ER/PR+, then it might be possible.
There is a web-site dedicted to pregancies of people with cancer.... pregnantwithcancer.org.... they have a lot of information available. I used them as a starting point when I was diagnosed while pregnant. They have info on getting pregnant after cancer, too.
You also need to talk with your oncologist, and your OB about what your options are. Sometimes there are options, sometimes not, it will depend on your type of tumor and what all you will have to go through (ie chemo, radiation). Some of the chemo drugs can put you into menopause that might be permanent.
Talk with your docs, have them talk to other docs. Look for research on the subject, contact pregnantwithcancer.org... you might be fortunate enough to try having another child.
Best of luck with your surgery,
Lisa