MONDAY'S RANT

[selmaS]

"Rainy days and Mondays always get me down".....so lets rant all day Monday- each Monday a different topic-we will poll for next weeks.....so this week lets do a favorite of mine.....doctors!!


post ur rant and get it out of ur system and enjoy the rest of the week!!

[Viva001]

Im at the ER, this time because DH fell & needs x-rays.  I cant believe the bad luck lately.  Hard to recover even under the best of circumstances.
Sigh....

[selmaS]

  My rant this week is .....I have to leave NY today : (

I could stay a few more days as I am loving this.....lol....so I am sad to think I have to head back to PA sometime tomorrow.....

[selmaS]

  It is scary as my parents were taken by the construction workers that were to be fixing the home after the explosion......so this was not the first time and it just makes them feel like incompetent fools,.....nothing we say can change how they feel....and just going out the front door is a reminder.....

I am just worried they made copies of  my moms keys and will come back....

[Viva001]

I feel much better getting that out of my system!

That's just tragic about your parents.

We only recently found out that my DH's stepmother was the victim of a scam.  He never inherited anything after she died; I wondered about that but it was NOMB.  she had her own biological children, but still, there were some personal items that could only have been of sentimental value to my DH.  
She was terrified to go into a nursing home, so apparently "home health aides" took care of her, swindled her out of her condo, possessions & insurance!

[selmaS]

  They were not hurt physically, but I am not sure if u were aware this past Feb was the 1 yr annv of a huge gas explosion across the street and their home was damaged and my mom's friend was killed...so this just added to the not feeling safe in their own home...I have pics and links to that story in my profile page....

  Viv...I so understand how u feel about the medical profession and their outlook  or view of patients....and do have this to say about ur DD she is still in school?...I ask bcuz it is hard to send them to school where they r taught to go by the book...and then u r asking her to listen to u and what u have learned which is outside her books....I know as I did go thru this with my DD...but, mine did come around as she would tell me a situation and I would say how I would handle it and get this, similar to what the books said...hmmm and I didn't read the books....so, my DD does come to me for answers and she knows and trusts what I have to say much of the time......I am sure ur DD will have an eye opening experience and realize just how much u know...but it is part of the natural life experience for them to  tune us out....

Now ur brother on the other  hand, he is just being obstinate...I have a sister like that, and guess what...her boss's niece was just dx and guess who she is turning to for help????? Yeah, until it hits closer to them do they begin to understand just how this is really affecting us. Sad and I know we should not have to deal with it....but I really feel bcuz we do, we r stronger and can.

We just need to vent once in a while to someone else that understands.....

  ((hugs))

[Viva001]

That's terrible, what happened to your parents!   Were they hurt?  They must feel so violated.  (I had a crazy neighbor who had a grudge against my extensive garden & poisoned it.  I am Still not over it!).

It really is raining here today, and I am a bit down.  I feel that I have to vent about "medical professionals".  We all have had--the royal Chiari runaround--but I feel angry that they're not that smart!!  In general!  If they're not arrogant going into their field, they are coming out.

Most people I know avoid doctors if at all possible, for various reasons (the time/expense, let the body try to heal first, fear, mistrust, etc).  I don't doubt that there is a minuscule % who are true hypochondriacs, need attention, or are "drug seeking".   But the medical people act like we Love them, just can't stay away, have no lives elsewhere, & have no problem paying for the privilege of seeing them.

I've been stewing about this since my recent visit to the ER for a snake bite.  I did not want to go, but no one else would see me because "snake bites are a medical emergency".  Then to reluctantly go there and not be believed that I was bitten?!  Really?!!  Yeah, I had nothing else to do & was lonely, so I just I'd drop into the ER for some attention.  I also didn't feel that I had quite enough medical expenses, being 3 mo. post op.

I've had a whole lifetime of this condescension, dismissiveness, close-mindedness, etc. from them.  Ive learned to do my own research & trust my own instincts.  
The only change I see is that women have more options for childbirth (and I was one of the people who fought for that; it was still very backwards in 1977).  

But what really bothers me the most are the two nurses in my family; it really makes me wonder why they went into the profession.  To make themselves think that they are wonderful people?   Because it is not out of love.  My brother never believed I was sick--because there was "no proof"-- and never offered an apology or even well wishes when there finally was proof.  We're pretty much estranged anyway, but recently I was horrified to hear him speak  w/derision about his ex-wife having to go to the ER for vertigo.  

Even worse, I think my daughter's graduate NP program ruined her.  She doesn't want to know anything about anything she hasn't learned in college.  She thinks I'm a smartypants (or showoff) or something, trying to impress people with my medical information.  I would much prefer to not have earned an Honorary Degree in Chiari malformation!  (Or one in snakebites either, lol.  She didn't even want to learn that it's pointless to go to the ER after 6 hr--and this might be important in her profession!).

I can count on 1 hand the true healers that Ive encountered, and still have fingers left over.  I'm very grateful for them.  

This is my longest post, & it's a rant.  If you've read this far, here's what the Sicilian immigrants used to say:  "don't trust banks and don't trust doctors".