MONDAY'S RANT

[selmaS]

"Rainy days and Mondays always get me down".....so lets rant all day Monday- each Monday a different topic-we will poll for next weeks.....so this week lets do a favorite of mine.....doctors!!


post ur rant and get it out of ur system and enjoy the rest of the week!!

[selmaS]

  Great poem Viv...fits all too well what so many of us seem to go thru with family and or friends that just do not understand.....

  As I say u can lead a horse to water.....lol...

[Viva001]

I have come to realize that people who expect & *demand* sympathy--& have tantrums when they dont receive it!--well, it says more about them than it does about me.

People who are "untreated" can be very hurtful. (I never play the pissing game-- "my life is worse than yours"; I might & would lose here :-/ ).
The people who have hurt me recently have been jealous--can you believe it?!!
I actually sent 1 of them a book for no reason, because I was tired of feeling sorry for myself.  I suppose that they have no clue how difficult that was to fit into my already overwhelmed life.

I had to memorize the poem "If" in 7th grade, which still comes in handy today.  I hope it helps:
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/if/

[selmaS]

  No worries, I say them as I see them and I have BTDT...so I know how it feels...as I say on many that ask about what to expect with surgery..ask 10 people u will get 10 diff answers....

The same thing if u walked into a room and made a comment, then ask the 10 people what they thought u said and how u said it....u would get 10 diff answers....u can not do things to please others....u know ur intent and know what is in ur <3....so, u have to let those neigh sayers go....

[jiggle93]

Selma, Thank You! You have me in tears...

Your right, its other peoples perception that I am getting hung up on. I dont want that to be how people think of me or see me. It just hurts more when its family, especially since I do all the reaching out, and then to have them comment such things. If it were a stranger, or even a friend I would be able to have a "whatever" attitude...but family somehow knows how to cut deep dont they? My husband told me that he thought it sound like there guilt coming through on their comment, since everyone wants to sweep the issue under the carpet and not speak of it like it never happened...all I ever wanted was an explaination...being told you are not your fathers daughter by his family because he couldnt face me (at 32 years of age) seems like something that needed a discussion....but now they see me as someone that wont leave things alone. Hello? I didnt bring this up out of the blue, and then say forget about it!
AAAHH! So frustrated!
But thank you for saying such kind things, its what I needed to hear! Thank You, Thank You!!!

[selmaS]

  I would say try to let it be like water on a ducks back...it is perception, I learned this yrs ago, I was HR at a retail chain and during Orientation I would get a few that said I was mean during the info session and others that enjoyed the way I presented it...y, bcuz everyone will perceive what u say and do differently no matter if u r singing songs of love and smiling they will see doom and gloom, it is more a reflection of them and not u !

This was exactly how I began to feel to and life is too short for some near sighted people to keep me from enjoying myself...too bad they only see the negative. As long as ur DH and u know what u meant...no worries...forget them it is their loss.

  If u were a negative person, I think I would have noticed...and trust me u r not.  <3 ((hugs))

[jiggle93]

Selma, I am so sorry your weekend got cancelled...I know you were looking so forward to it!  Great pics tho!
Viv, I am so sorry that you have "friends" like this...you are right, you do not need this right now! I count my blessings for your opinions and outlook on here, as it has helped me many of times!  
my monday rant is really a weekend rant...I made light of a situation about my life and my family history...and well, it set off fireworks! I was out on Friday night to enjoy an evening with DH when I recieve a message from my aunt and uncle which proceeded to inform me of how highly insulted they were by my comment, and continued to say how I dont get over things, how I need to stop placing blame on others, and how I have victim menality, etc.  I went instantly numb. It ruined my entire weekend. I even offered avery "high road" public apology, to which they have not responded...but not only did my symptoms flair up, but I am truly feeling horriable about myself.  I personally feel like the most optimistic person in the family, as my entire life has been about making lemonade out of the lemons...but now I just feel like maybe I dont really know who I am...in more ways than one :/  

I am beginning to feel like everything I say and do comes out differently than I intended and maybe its safer to just keep my mouth shut...I just hate the feeling I have inside me now, have felt defeated and sickened to my stomache for days now.