concerned for my other childern and self

[P_sHaNoN3]

My 4yr old daughter has agressive behavor problems, bitting, hair pulling, scratching, clawing
, chocking but only at home, not at school or church. She also throws severe screaming fits and crying for 2 to 3 hrs straight. She is also 2yr behind, no talking takes speech, OT and physical therapy. What else can I do, I sometimes feel scared and frightened at times of her, HELP PLEASE

[P_sHaNoN3]

Thank you for your comments, not sure what exactly trigers her outburst, it almost seems anything does. We have been to vanderbilt in Nashville,TNN and autism has been ruled out, home is the only place she acts this way. Every where else she has to go like Pre-k or therapy which we have tomorrow and I will talk 2 them again, its hard for them to understand the severity of the sistuation because they have never seen this side of her, she's always happy and easy going and eager to whatever, and then when we get home it changes anything could set her off and then nothing works to calm her but I'm going to be very presistaint about this with them. Thanks for the advice

[specialmom]

Well, don't fear her now, she is only 4.  You can worry about what it will be like in 5 years or so but now, you are the parent.  

What is her diagnosis?  Does she have autism?  I would begin working with the OT and a psychologist to work on emotional and behavioral issues with her.  She may be holding it together in school and then losing it in her safe place (home).  But none the less, you need to help her with her emotions and coping skills.  I think professional advice would be beneficial and this needs to be part of your treatment plan for her.  

I had a volatile child as well.  I think as YOU see he escalate, you need to have things in place to change the situation.  If she is amping up, offer her something to distract her.  A piece of chewing gum is good, or blowing bubbles or those animals that you blow into and their middle's blow up (bought at any grocery toy store aisle or drug store).  Give her a pillow to hit if she needs to pound.  But you need to watch for triggers and signs that it is happening so that you can defuse it until she is able.  

What do you do when she has these aggressive outbursts?  

I think again that you should talk to the professionals treating her and add on a psychologist.  Our ot has worked very hard with our son on behavior and emotional issues---------  it has worked well for him.  Talk to your OT about this.  And again, if she has severe developmental delays, it explains the behavior.  I'm thrown off that it happens only at home----------  but maybe this is due to letting it all go after keeping it together when she has to.  Make sure that you are calm with her and model appropriate anger management techniques yourself.  good luck

[benjimom]

I know how you feel, not to mention you must be so overwhelmed by it all.  I would mention these behaviors to the speech therapist.  My son had speech delays and he would get easily frustrated.  I feel like something is being missed her.  Perhaps she might have some sensory issues or maybe even autism. I would be more aggressive with the doctors and therapists and insist on getting more answers, even more evaluations.  It's horrible to feel like this and my son has sensory processing disorder, I know hwat it feels like to be hit,kicked,screamed at, scratched, hair pulled, etc.  HE also had a lot of behavioral issues at school last year.  It was a terrible year.  

Keep in touch and let us know what happens.