2 Year old Making her self throw up when dad leaves her at daycare

[FrustratedDCP]

I have a 2 yo daycare girl that screams and crys and actually makes herself throw up when her dad leaves her here.  She is perfectly fine a few minutes later and she does NOT do this when her mom brings her.  I think she has seperation anxiety and her dad is making it worse by consoling her and picking her up, then telling her he is leaving, and picking her up again when she crys.  He stayed for over 15 minutes today.  What can I try to make things better for her?  I even told the parents to try a new daycare and they don't want to so I am guessing that she does some of this at home to.

[lovethebops]

If it means anything to anyone, the OP posted this same question in the Parenting forum in the expert section of this website. She received excellent advice from an expert, so hopefully that will direct her on what is best for the 2 year old that sparked this passionate debate. I hope she is able to help this little girl and her parents make the transition of separation that is never easy for any child or parent, no matter what the circumstance behind it is. I think that is what is most important here. Have a good evening all!

[RockRose]

tired,  go back and read through some of the comments on this thread and see who is being snide and rude.

Read Suzi Q's comments (especially telling me never to use the term baby room again,  geez,  when I order diapers for the church nursery "baby room" I guess I'll have to think of something else for the church to call that) and read Peek's comments.

Who is being snider here?  I read through my post,  that inflamed so many,  and it's not nearly as hostile as Peek's and Suzi Qs are to me.

You may not see it if it isn't being said to you,  is the thing.

[Agiesmom]

No--I didn't mistake anything you said.  I wasn't specifically talking about you--just pointing out that even though I carefully worded what I said, my points were missed, phrases were hyperfocused upon and taken as attacks, and other comments (like the tag-team one) were directed at me.  It wasn't by you and it wasn't a big deal--I was just pointing out that it doesn't matter how you word things--if someone is going to take offense, they're going to take offense.  This is an emotional topic.  People get passionate.  That's all.

[tiredbuthappy]

you seem to mistake my desire to have my views expressed as defensiveness again.

I never occused you of tagteaming with RR. i didn't even "jump on" on you. the only reason i directed a comment towards you was simply because what you described didn't match my experiences. i even stated that. how was anything i directed towards you an attack? you are right- you have managed to express your views without much judgement- at least to the point of the posts earlier in the thread. i've read so much since, i don't clearly recall who said what. you keep coming back here and accusing me of attacking you and being defensive, when i have not initiated anything with you. i read your post about staying home on the other forum as well. again, you managed to say things well. i didn't "attack" or "jump on" you there because you stated your views without trying to demean others.  that conversation, until i last read it, managed to stay civil and helpful. the main difference? no low, rude, snide, or demeaning remarks.

[RockRose]

peek,  you see it as a pure and simple choice because in your opinion it's not harmful to the children.  So,  of course it's a choice to you,  up to each parent to make.

What if this were a debate about putting cereal in a newborn's bottle.  Some people were for it,  some against,  and the ones for it said hey,  it's a choice.  You do what you want,  let us do what we want,  and stop telling us what to do,  we want to put cereal in the baby bottle.  MYOB.  

This is how I feel in this.  

And to AJ, thank you for sharing your story.  I think you're right,  your son is well adjusted and happy,  and you should have no regrets.  Sometimes it works out great.

[Agiesmom]

No one can make you feel anything.  You have to allow that to happen.  If someone tells me that they believe that daycare is great for babies because it teaches socialization, that statement cannot in any way make me feel like a bad mom for keeping my baby home because I simply don't believe it.  If I felt insecure or uncertain about my decision, then it would likely make me feel bad.