4 YEAR OLD PROBLEMS

[JOELEO]

MY DAUGHTER IF ALMOST 5 YEARS OLD AND SHE CONTINUES TO PEE THE BED OVERNIGHT CONSTANTLY. WE HAVE TAKEN HER TO THE DR AND WAS TOLD SHE HAS A UNDERDEVELOPED BLADDER.SHE WAS GREAT FOR 2 WEEKS UNTIL SHE SPENT THE NIGHT AT GRANNYS HOUSE(SHE PUTS OUR DAUGHTER IN A PULL UP)AND EVER SINCE THEN SHE PEES EVERY NIGHT SINCE AND CONTINUES TO PEE DURING THE DAY AND HAS ALWAYS LIED TO US. ME AND MY WIFE ARE GETTING EXTREMELY FRUSTRATED AND SHE DOESNT CARE WHEN WE TAKE AWAY TOYS. PLEASE HELP, BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN LYING AND TALKING BACK 2 US RECENTLY

[Alan48]

My daughter will be turning 5 in May, I have read a tremendous amount of these comments & have yet to see one that compares with my daughter. She has always been a "strong willed child" , very sharp, caring & my little Princess, for over a year now we have been dealing with her extreme mood changes,she can be playing alone or with other children & everything will be going great and a cloud will come over her and she turns into a controlling, angry very ugly person, saying anything to hurt whoever is around or even physical abuse. She has become sneaky and lying to get what she wants and also wetting and soiling herself. She has even pooped in her bed in the middle of the night, waited till morning and poop again while we are asking her to help get ready standing and looking at us as she does it, beligerently. We do not have a troubled home or long hours at work, we spend quality time with her every chance we get. She has made it so that we cannot take her anywhere for she will scream and run away or soil herself on purpose. I'm sure that some of you are thinking that she is spoiled but I assure you that although I do give her special attention it is not to the extreme. I have also raised 2 other children with nothing to compare to this. We have tried just about everything that is offered as advidce including similar ones from this site. She likes to be deviant and even smirks at us when we are talking to her about her incidents. She is not always this way, she can be caring and attentive to other people, she knows how to share and is very inquisitive showing her intelligence. we are going to be taking her to a doctor within the next week to have her checked physically and possiblly mentally, Her mood swings are very severe, along with her soiling herself on purpose and I have no clue as to what may happen next, I just want my Princess back and to have our family not living in disorder!

[Amy521]

Punishment will only make the situation worse.  I wet the bed til I was 6, and then I stopped.  Take a chill pill.  Be firm with the grandmother and tell her not to use the pull-ups on her, and try the method described by another poster of getting her up a few times in the night to pee.  It works so much better than punishment, and your relationship with your daughter will be better.  Be prepared for occasional accidents until your kids are almost 10, seriously.  Even older kids get distracted and have accidents sometimes, you shouldn't make them feel BAD for it.

[althepal39]

Why would you punish a child for wetting the bed?  They don't do it on purpose - they are asleep.  Yes - it is inconvenient and messy for you - but it's not something she is doing on spite or because she is lazy.  The doctor said she had an underdeveloped bladder - so taking her toys away is not going to make her develop it any faster.    What made her be so good for 2 weeks?  After you went to the doctor she just stopped doing it?

[tiffany2008]

My son who will be four in June was having the same problem.  The doctor said they don't consider it a problem till they are at least six.  He was constantly wetting and my husband would always scold him about it.  The doctor said not to get angry with them and he quit fussing him for this.  We got the goodnight shorts and he did really well.  Now he is in his underwear to sleep and only has an accident every once in a while.  I think the scolding had a lot to do with it.

[debbs1234]

Hi my son will be 5 in November and has only been dry the last week.  We decided enough was enough and decided to take him out of pull ups for the last time as we have tried on several occasions but always went back to using them as i was sick of washing sheets everyday.  He would often pee the bed twice in one night.

About 3 months ago we had enough we were getting frustrated and worried about him going to school and still being in pull ups.  He started peeing nearly everynight then it was every second and now for the last week he has been dry. You have probably tried all these things but a small drink at tea and then if she is thirsty before bed a couple sip and make sure she goes to the toilet about 15 mins before bed timeand then again just before.  We got him up when we put our oldest to bed at 9.30 and then again about 11.  My health visitor says not to shout or get angry with them as its not there fault hard i know but then seemingly its just supposed to click and now i think it has now we only get him up at about 11 and he has been dry since. Behaviour wise i always found the naughty step useful or a reward chart with stickers.