Hi guys...This is the scenario...
I have 2 children a girl who is 4 and a boy who is 3. At the begining of the year I became friends with a lady accross the road who has a 4yr old son. I trust my two children to play together in their room with me keeping a ear out and popping up to check on them regulary, there has never been any problems with this and they always come down if there are problems. However my friend started to bring her son around to play with my children and this went fine for a short while until one time a few months ago I went upstairs to check on them to find my daughter with her pants and trousers off, I was shocked as this type of 'play' has never happened with my two on their own. I spoke to my daughter about it afterwards and she told me this boy had told her to take her pants and trousers off and he was 'hurting' her bum. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it so I told her if anything like that happens again she must come and tell me and not to take her trousers off. I also decided that they were no longer allowed to play upstairs on their own, I thought the problem was solved but yesterday the two boys went into the kitchen to get some grapes, I followed them in and my friends boy didn't realise I was stood in the doorway and took his trousers down and said to my son 'show me your winky'. My son looked at me and the boy realised I was stood their so pulled his trousers up and ran off! I have had the same talk with my son and have now decided that I do not want this boy to play with my children. However I have a major feeling of guilt, I think for a 4yr old to behaving like this he is possibly being abused, I have not spoken to his mum about his behaviour incase she goes into some sort of rant. I am not sure if I am being paranoid or if I should say something to someone incase he is being abused. I am also worried that my children have been affected, what advice would you give? my children are now not having any contact with this boy, is it just childs games? or something more sinister?