i have a bipolar step daughter who made a bad choice

[wmccmw63]

I have a bipolar step daughter who made a bad choice she made a accusation that I was spying on her when she took a shower she got bad Intel from her friend and the situation scared her so she was sent to move with her dad she has been there for three months and is doing noting but feeling down her biolagical father is not taking her for medical care that she needs and her mothers been doing it anyway being a state away I think she needs a second chance a new start I feel if she doesn't get a second chance the she has no chance at all she is only 14 with a biplor disorder please help us what to is she better off there or does she deserve a second chance
                      Thanks lost step father

[katiebug32888]

Well im a 24 yr old with bipolar so maybe i can help. I was also 14 at one time. If u know u did not such thing, I think she deserves a lot of chances. If u leave her there she gunna think u dont give 2 ***** about her and gave up on her. She gunna have crazy outbursts all the time. Most of the time due to needing something thats not being reconized. So instead of telling u straight up shes gunna start **** to get the attension on her. So mr dad.
Step 1 go git ur daughter
Step 2 dont give up on her until shes an adult
Step 3 set down with her by urself and say look her we need to fix this i love u and im not going to allow this type of behavior in my house. Tell how how much trouble her accusation could have gotten you in

[specialmom]

So, the mother is the custodial parent, the daughter says that you didn't peep, mom still takes care of daughters needs often and everyone wants her to come back----------  I'm not sure what the hold up is in bringing her back to her mothers.  Have mom tell dad that this is what is happening.  If she is the custodial parent, she can do that, right?  

[wmccmw63]

No she just knows how her Bio dad is and he is a jackass but I would never say anything negative about her father around her because no matter what that will always be her daddy her mother is doing everything anyway and missing out on precious moments in her life and her Bio dad just wants to lay in bed with his 26 year old girl friend and he is 42 and she is forced to share a room with a 6 year old when the 10 year old gets her own room they are all girls and the other two are hers and the 10 year old is favored over her she gets everything she want and the 14 year old gets only hand me downs the mother is the custodial parent and a very good one

[specialmom]

Well, this is a discussion for her mother and father.  Perhaps mom can make a case to bring her back.  It isn't a court mandated custody change is it?

[wmccmw63]

I swear up and down I did nothing and she did admit it was false I love her as she was my own and will do anything for her and protect her she has major depression and needs to know its not what the world has to offer it is what she has to offer it and her Bio dad does not listen to her he always puts a guilt trip on her she needs a second chance and needs to know how big that chance is

[specialmom]

I'm confused----  are you asking if YOU deserve a second chance?  Are you asking if she should come back to you and her mother rather than her bio dad?   Well, if the charge was completely made up and you and her mother are providing better care for her, then yes.  However, I am thinking that YOU will have to be very cautious.  If she is making up accusations, that could be dangerous for you.  She could escalate the accusations and it could really blow up into a legal situation for you.  So, that is something for you and her mother to discuss.  

but if you did nothing----------  swear on your life----------  and her mother is the better custodial parent, then yes, it would be better for her to stay with her mom.  The moving back and forth is not good though.  She needs to get somewhere and stay there.  good luck