Can you please help me?

[patsyburrell]

My husband and I have been married over 20 years and we have a 18 year old daughter and 14 year old son.  My husband never give my daughter the time of day.  Her and I have always been so close.  It''s all different now, she never wants to be around me and it appears she hates the sight of me.  My husband has been going to her bedroom constantly laying on her bed and talking.  Then of course he says he fell asleep but this is now an everynight situation and now he wants her to go everywhere with him.  Their whole relationship is different.  Could he possibly be having sex with his own daughter?  What do you think is really going on?


This discussion is related to Sleeping in bed with mom.

[Caylenncloud]

He definitely is. Please take care of that. Not healthy at all

[MingLingg]

Honestly before jumping to conclusion on a serious accusation like that I would ask yourself as a parent are you the problem. As young teens grow older they tend to grow apart from their mothers and cling to others. Do you see your daughter as competition ? How is your relationship with your spouse to where you feel you married a child molester. ? And lastly did you approach the situation with both parties present ? I suggest counseling.

[Sabella1S]

MingLingg has a point. My mother viewed me as competition from day one and tricked my dad into having two more kids she knew he had no interest in. She hated how close we were and resented when my dad finally showed my sister affection years later out of guilt for being such a **** to her.

My mom accused my dad of all sorts of ******** lies she made up about him and me because she thought our close relationship was nefarious. When he finally felt guilty enough for how my sister was treated she made the same ******** lies up about him and my sister.

I've always been super close to my dad, he knows everything about my life. It's not always what someone jumps to. Sometimes, there is a reason for a close bond between a father and daughter.

With me and my dad it was because I was the only child he wanted and the only child he planned for. And because I was abused viciously by my mother for that reason.

[wayneOFgotham]

Nanny cam in her room.

[Kymsmom07]

Please help this little girl. I hate to say it but most likely you are  right. I would put a camera in. If it is something like you suspect dont take matters into your own hands.  let the law handle it. She doesnt need her mom in jail. Have you confronted him?

[Rosemary3560]

Hi. I would install a camera. He's probably brainwashed her. It's easy when your that age to get confused. It's her father and she trusts him, she may think in some way it's ok, because he's telling her it is. Do trust your mother instinct it's what we have as mothers and usually is right. God bless you and I hope it's not happening.

[Nmaharajr0122]

The fact that she seems to hate the sight of you is because she feels you are doing nothing about it. She's trying to reach out for help here read the signs. Takes her everywhere she's helpless if you can't see it she feels she has to go and do what he says she's helpless. Trust me this happened to someone I know and these are the same things. She is being manipulated by this man who's supposed to be her protector. Stop it while can. It's wrong and not normal. No dad that has real love for their of age daughter doesn't give her space etc. He's obviously abusing her and she's afraid of him. Won't say anything coz his her own dad. Hates you coz you're not seeing it. Dear this is sick what your husband is doing. Worse since it is her biological father. Gosh I hate such men. Thank god we got rid of 1 from our family

[sara0330]

From my experience,  yes he is, and the reason why she seems to hate you is because she sees you as competition.  ..