Can you please help me?

[patsyburrell]

My husband and I have been married over 20 years and we have a 18 year old daughter and 14 year old son.  My husband never give my daughter the time of day.  Her and I have always been so close.  It''s all different now, she never wants to be around me and it appears she hates the sight of me.  My husband has been going to her bedroom constantly laying on her bed and talking.  Then of course he says he fell asleep but this is now an everynight situation and now he wants her to go everywhere with him.  Their whole relationship is different.  Could he possibly be having sex with his own daughter?  What do you think is really going on?


This discussion is related to Sleeping in bed with mom.

[star029655]

Why don't you stay awake when he is in there and just walk in the room in the middle of the night.  You need to trust what you feel inside and act.

[Here_to_help_not_professional]

You could always while he is in there, sit with them and try talking to them casually and see how they act. But if you feel like something is going on and you are seriously worried, trust yourself and ask them either together or separately but directly. As if your worried you can't sugar coat it. Hope for the best for you and I really hope this isn't happening and they have just developed a father daughter relationship after all the years x

[Here_to_help_not_professional]

You could always while he is in there, sit with them and try talking to them casually and see how they act. But if you feel like something is going on and you are seriously worried, trust yourself and ask them either together or separately but directly. As if your worried you can't sugar coat it. Hope for the best for you and I really hope this isn't happening and they have just developed a father daughter relationship after all the years x

[Justmyopinion123]

Trust your gut. I don't believe your husband will admit to such a thing. Predators are very cunning and can easily twist & manipulate. I agree with the previous comment ....when he's in bed with her open the f=%#@n door. Or, take her to be examined or talked to by a professional.

[margypops]

I think you need to have some straight talking here and tell him you are not comfortable with his behavior , havent you asked your daughter about it , you should sit and ask her , when you know he is in her bedroom you should call him out and really not allow it as it seems like enablement .,the fact you know and he is still doing it, if he wants to talk to your daughter tell him you will join in and talk in the living area.

[foursquare]

What's your gut telling you?

I think this is one of those things where you need to trust it.


If it's true, you need to get your husband out of the house PRONTO.

[bBarry]

The State Police would give him a lie detector test.

[unisom69]

lie detector tests are not conclusive by any means. most law enforcement doesnt employ polygraphs like at all