Child Obsessed with boys

[turkey1]

I have a stepdaughter I am worried about. She is 9 years old now but for the last two years she has always focused on what boys thought of her and if they were looking at her.  She is obsessed with her looks and popoularity.  MOst recently she is talking about having boyfirends and wanting to kiss boys and if she is sexy enough.  She only lives with us in the summer but I am worried about the time she is with her mom.  Her dad talks to her weekly and is prevalent in her life.  Her mom is very busy with a long string of boyfriends living in and out of the house.

[momto2miracles]

Is it possible that she was molested?? A lot of girl's that are molested at a young age are very boy crazy because they equate sexual attention as being wanted and being loved

[RockRose]

If her dad talks to her "weekly" - he isn't prevalent in her life,  sadly.  He's a shadow figure that she may think about all the time,  but he isn't there.  This is kind of typical of girls who long for their dads but don't actually have them - they replace them with boyfriends.

Is there some reason her dad is unavailable for her to actually live with?  

Best wishes.  I think you're doing the right thing  by keeping her during the summer.  

It also sounds like she could use a sport - volleyball,  softball,  tennis,  soccer,  etc., that she can be proud of achieving in and burn off some of that energy.

[SL345]

Sounds like she is dealing with a lot of insecurity about her desirability. Hopefully, she won't turn to sex when she's older as a mistaken way to bolster her self esteem. Her parents' divorce and her mother's multiple partners may be contributory. Finding healthy outlets, discussing values and giving her the opportunity to discuss and address her insecurity would be important. Will she open up to you about her feelings about all of this? She might benefit from counseling, perhaps a group for children of divorce. Good luck.