Clothing issues

[Kennymac168]

My nine year old daughter has had this problem now for a few years ,although for a short time it had gone it has come back with avengenz now.she has started again with not wanting to wear any clothes we put out for her and would rather go in the washing basket and take out dirty clothes including pants and socks,I couldn't count how many different items of clothing she has,some still with the label on but she just won't put any of them on and would rather just wear her old baggy pair of joggers.
It came to a head last night when we were getting ready for a family party,my wife had agreed with my daughter the night before on what she was wearing and ironed the outfit for her,but as we were all getting ready my daughter started crying saying she didn't want to wear what was put out for here,to cut a very long story short,my wife ironed four outfits which were declined with crying and and tantrums and my daughter then banged her head off the wall,I then went into my daughters bedroom and tried to calm her down and going through her clothes and saying things like that would look cool on or you would look nice in that,she then went and picked up a top that was lying behind her door on the floor,when I looked at it,it was dirty and had a small hole in it,she then through a tantrum and put on this dress which I reluctantly agreed to but she wanted to put on a scabby pair of trainers which I told her it wasn't a good idea, she then said nobody cared about her which I told her she was wrong and that we loved her so much but we can get frustrated sometimes with her with this issue and that we had spent two hours trying to get her something to wear.we spent another half an hour trying to get her to wear shoes with the dress witch was constantly followed with crying and tantrums,by this time I had given up and was drained by it all so I said right ok we're not going now why don't you put your pyjamas on,it was at this point that has shocked me and my wife and my reason for writing this and trying to find answers,the shoes I was trying to get her to wear we're picked up at she banged them on her nose at least five times,and with blood Cushing from her nose she turned to me and said look what you made me do.
We are at our wits end and need some advice on what to do,we love our daughter so much.
Any advice would be much appreciated.

[allmymarbles]

It would seem that we agree.

[specialmom]

Neither of my boys like jeans either.  You know, I found pants in khaki material that fits like athletic pants?  That's what we wear on our 'nice' days.'  Luckily, my kids are sporty and their garb kind of represents that but in reality, it's a lot more comfortable!

[allmymarbles]

Error in my entry previous to the last. The last sentence should read, "They wee probably the only kids that NEVER owned a pair of jeans."

[allmymarbles]

I can see where your son has a special need for soft garments, but I believe that all children like the feel of things like plush and velvet and satin. They are all feely-feely when young.

[specialmom]

My sons issues are more related to his nervous system and his sensory integration disorder.  But yes, he is very sensitive.  My other son has things he likes and dislikes but can cope.  that's the difference with a sensory kid with tactile defensiveness verses one that isn't---  one can cope and the other truly can't.  

[allmymarbles]

Yes, children are very sensitive to how fabrics feel. Just think how tender their skin is. I used a lot of velveteen, sateen and other soft fabrics for their clothing, and I never put them in denim or other harsh materials. They were probably the only kids that owned a pair of jeans.