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Fully toilet trained 4 year old reverting back to baby
My daughter has been out of diapers and fully potty trained since 2ish. She had no problems going to the big toilet. 3 weeks ago my sister had her first baby and I began seeing "more" desire for cuddles from my daughter, then wanting to do bab y things and copying the baby etc. Now since returning home from overseas she has developed a real phobia with toilets - won't go NO.1 or No.2 - to the point of experiencing absolute terror, complete with shaking, sobbing and real hysteria. This has gone on for two weeks now. I gave in and allowed her to use the old potty as I didn't want her to get a bladder infection, plus her screams were causing untold havoc in the wee hours at the apt. complex we live in.
It's so bad now that she is now refusing to do NO. 2 in the potty.
I have tried bribing, role playing, sweet talking, spanking, losing it, babying her, playing drill sargent, coaxing etc. ashas my husband. We are at a loss and have just sent her to bed with threats of her having to sleep in her "business" if she does it in her pants.
Of course we feel horrible and hope to heavens it doesn't come to that - but what should we do. Do we take her to a psycologist? She's only 4.5 and my husband just gave up after 45 min of her screaming and his coaxing her to do it - gently - nothing worked.
Please help me. To date she's been a model child - sleeps well, eats well, has good manners, but this has come out of nowhere. It began on vacation in my mother's normal toilet, then my sister's, then the noisy one's on the planes and then the water filled one's in dubai airport - just to give you some background.
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It's so bad now that she is now refusing to do NO. 2 in the potty.
I have tried bribing, role playing, sweet talking, spanking, losing it, babying her, playing drill sargent, coaxing etc. ashas my husband. We are at a loss and have just sent her to bed with threats of her having to sleep in her "business" if she does it in her pants.
Of course we feel horrible and hope to heavens it doesn't come to that - but what should we do. Do we take her to a psycologist? She's only 4.5 and my husband just gave up after 45 min of her screaming and his coaxing her to do it - gently - nothing worked.
Please help me. To date she's been a model child - sleeps well, eats well, has good manners, but this has come out of nowhere. It began on vacation in my mother's normal toilet, then my sister's, then the noisy one's on the planes and then the water filled one's in dubai airport - just to give you some background.
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This forum is actually about others giving opinions thats what we do I am sorry , I could have phrased it better ..
And this is why I rarely reach out for help on an "issue" b/c smarty pants people like yourself feel all God Liike to respond to things that have nothing to do with the issue at hand. You have no idea about our life, so stop judging and find some compassion for the problem, not about voicing your opinions about things you have no idea about!!!
the idea of a 4 year old being so hooked onto a computer and camera tells me that maybe she would be happier if she had fun and games outside, less of the tech stuff at such a young age ..maybe parents would enjoy some ball games outside aswell
Well low and behold we woke up after that very stressful night to her asking us if she could use the "big girl's toilet" - "of course" we chimed in unison. And with that a big poo poo and Pee was cause for celebration. Not sure why, not sure of a nything but something in her clicked overnight and she immediately said to me "now I can use the computer and the camera" so your point of her missing out on TV and things that she likes was help enough to get her to do her "business".
I will keep your advice aside for the potential next trauma that she may encounter - Oh Lord I hope not !!! Thank you so much to all responders. It calmed me to read the advice and I've taken it all on board.
I will keep your advice aside for the potential next trauma that she may encounter - Oh Lord I hope not !!! Thank you so much to all responders. It calmed me to read the advice and I've taken it all on board.
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There are also some really great double toilet seats at places like Home Depot, that have a small ring and a larger ring (child and adult). If they are the right size for the toilet in your place, you might look into getting one after a while.
Just remember, she's not the only 4-year-old in the universe to be wearing pullups, no matter how early she potty trained, and nobody is judging you. She probably at present associates using the toilet with lack of being a baby and getting all the love and attention (that babies get) and fear (from being forced to use unfamiliar and downright scary toilets on the trip). Let it all ease, and give her a lot of love. She'll probably get bored with being a baby after a while, but let her decide when.