I think my nephew could pos

[Chelly_89]

My nephew is 14 yrs old. For as long as I can remember he has thrown tantrums like a baby. Like I said he is 14 and if he is corrected or questioned about bad behavior he immediately starts crying (not normal crying, like a 2yr old would cry) that always bothered me, but I figured he would grow out of it. He has developed very bad anger issues, he will lie constantly about everything. Even if he is caught doing something he still lies, and says he didn't. He dosent take responsibility for his actions ever, and isn't held accountable. He has always gotten treated like a baby, because 2 weeks after he was born my niece (his sister) passed away from cancer. Obviously we were all very protective over him and Charished him dearly. More than an normal baby bc of our loss. We'll my brother and his ex wife had another daughter. Then their mom left my brother and her 2 kids (I'm only mentioning all this bc maybe this is the root of the problem) about 4-5 yes ago my brother met his now wife she has 3 kids of her own, but treats his just like her own. My nephew has started being very violent towards his sister and step sister and animal. When he gets mad for example if asked to feed his pets he will go out side kick, punch, throw them, ect. Has punched his sisters, one of the girls was laying across the yoga ball, and he hit the ball and fractured her fingers. His excuse was " I just wanted to hit the ball" everyone makes excuses for his actions he is rarely held accountable, but his sisters are held accountable for their actions, and are very well behaved. I thought he was just so violent toward them bc they are his little sisters, but then it hit me hard just today. Which is why I'm posting this and need answers! He was playing with my 2yr old son and put him in a laundry basket with a pillow over his face. Of course I freaked out, and told him to never do that again. Later on he started twisting up a sock and stinging him in the face. I chewed him out but kept my cool. What made me realize something wasn't right was when I walked in the room and he had a lighter trying to catch my toddlers hair on fire. I said what in the world do you think your doing. His reply was "he deserved it, he spit on me." It took everything in me not to hurt him at that point. Now I'm afraid of not only my sons safety, but the safety of his siblings. This can't be normal. If anyone has dealt with anything similar please I need advice.

[Chelly_89]

His step mom is very aware and concerned, but his father and grandparents baby him  and make excuses. When we bring it to their attention they say we're just picking on him. His step mom really can't do much nor can I with out his fathers consent. They don't want to believe something is meantally wrong with him or should I say they don't want to admit it. I just know something has to give, bc like I said he is my nephew and I love him, but if he were to seriously hurt  my toddler I would flip my lid.

[RockRose]

I agree,  Chelly,  this is not normal behavior.

Does mental illness run in his family?

[ROSYouralright]

Has he been in any type of counseling? This type of behavior can't be allowed to continue! What is he going to do when he's grown? I shudder to think!! His parents are harming him by not holding him accountable! I don't have the answers but someone will be along that does.... You are right to be concerned!!!