Midnight Screams

[Sallyinnz]

My husband & I are raising a 4 year old grand daughter. My husband reads, sings & stays with her while she falls asleep, something he started when she came into our care nearly 2 years ago.   Once she was aware that she was safe, secure & well loved I wanted him to break the habit, unfortunately that didn't happen.  Now we have a two headed monster in the middle of the night.  She wakes around 10.15, I tried to settle her but she doesn't want me near her & screams until he goes to her.  If he leaves the room after putting her back to bed she gets out screams & yells at the top of her voice "I don't want to sleep by myself," this can go on for nearly 2 hours & she works herself up into such a state that there is no reasoning with her.  We have tried the reward system but even this is not helping.
Can anyone please suggest what can be done as I'm starting to lose the plot.

[margypops]

and then you give in....after she yells ,and she knows you will, take her to bed tell her kindly she has to sleep there and leave the room, ignore the rest and the yelling that will ensue, be consistant and in a few nights she will be okay.